man is polygamous by nature.

Philippines
February 4, 2009 11:03am CST
two of my friends had an interesting argument about why people cheat. one of them claims cheating is a matter of choice; the other claims that man is polygamous by nature. there are animals who instinctively look for numerous mates to foster their race, while some animals, like jackals, would die for their mates. do you think man is innately good? or do you believe man is, by nature, polygamous?
5 responses
• United States
4 Feb 09
I see men who feel free to cheat and sleep around. and I see men who love their wives forever and ever amen. To argue that feeling free to cheat and sleep around is a cheesy excuse. It has negative effects on children and women, Do men just give up the responsibility of raising the child in this "By nature" argument? personally I see many unhappy people who split and it takes a toll on the kids that now they don't know how to raise kids, even if they wanted to, a Son who didn't have a dad or good father figure, has an arguably hard time raising children. Women in general need help raising kids, though they are CAPABLE of doing it alone, it is a much larger stress than if they did it as a couple with a man they were truly one with, I see more evidence leaning torward man is supposed to mate for life. Because if he doesn't, he isn't the one who feels the burn of his actions.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 09
of course cheating is wrong. but my question was, why is there cheating? is it because it is ingrained in man's genes? or is man cheating because he can? or perhaps it's both? that was that question. :D thanks for posting!
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
thanks for your kindness as well. ;o don't worry about having different spiritual beliefs. it's not wrong to believe in different things. in the end, it's what we do with those beliefs that matter. also, thanks for expounding on your answer! happy myLotting!
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Do I think Man is good? That is a whole other topic I could type about for a long while so I'll skip that and talk about if nature explains the cheating. Yes. I think Humans are a breed of animal. Just because we wear clothes and try for morals, we are still just animals who learned to farm. Does that make our behaviors justified? (darn it, I got back to the is man good thing after all) No. If you want to be a higher class of animal then you need to not lie, cheat, steal, and kill just because you feel like it. Would I ignore my man's cheating. With my first husband I did. As long as the kids were cared for, I let him do what ever he needed to. But I also let him know that because I didn't know where they had been, he wasn't coming to me for that. Now days there are just too many icky things that can cause you harm. Now I wouldn't but I'm older and my husband wouldn't do that... part of the reason I picked him.
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
don't you feel lucky that you are with someone who is passionately, go-ahead-god-take-me, stubbornly loyal? :) i am with a fiercely loyal guy and i feel like i unearthed gold. i have had friends who cheat, and i have never really understood how or why it happens. i always wonder, why don't they just leave their partner if they're not happy? and if they don't wanna leave them because they'rehappy, why are they cheating in the first place? it's way beyond my comprehension. i was actually told i was narrow-minded simply because i don't cheat! oh my, i never thought doing the right thing is a bad thing. har har. but i get this feeling that some people have an itch to cheat. i may never fully understand why, but i think some people feel that they just gotta. on the other hand, there are people who will never cheat - not because they have self-control, not because they're good. maybe they are all these things, but i think that, like any other quirk, they simply don't get that itch to cheat. they're quite happy nibbling one bone, so who needs two? er, about the bone, pun not intended.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
boy, am i glad you don't do double talk! some people say a lot of stuff but it doesn't really say anything meaningful. and i'm wondering if i should bite, or if i should hold back and let them ramble on... it's more interesting to argue with people who actually make sense. :/ so you have to keep posting! hehehe
@king4aday (681)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I don't agree that most men are polygamous by nature. It is more about choosing to be polygamus or not. I think it is more of an excuse than a fact. Yes it's true that more men cheat than women. But it does not apply to all men. I don't also agree that being polygamous has anything to do with genes. My friend's father was player and so is he. But it is not always the case.
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
i think that who ever said "polygamous by nature" didn't mean that there's exactly a gene for cheating. they just mean that the animal kingdom is known to have many mates so as to keep the species from extinction, and perhaps this evolutionary trait has been passed on to the most evolved animal: man. thanks for posting!
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I think, men are polygamous by nature but it is not an excuse on why men cheat. What makes men different from animals is the sense of reasoning. Men have brains, they know what is right from wrong. And they know that cheating is a big no-no! Most of the time I'm with the company of men, because of my profession. Often, they talk about women. On who is the hottest in the entertainment industry, etc. Men will always be men!
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• Philippines
6 Feb 09
yes, despite a possible tendency for man to cheat, man has higher faculties which he can use to counter this tendency. take note, i said man (as in human race), not MEN. hehe. i actually have more women friends who cheat on their husbands. hehe. so try not to think of it as something only the guys tend to do! :)
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I dont think that men or women for htat matter are naturally wired for cheating...I think its a conscious choice that they make based on a few different things like the environment they were raised in to their current relationship and so on....
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