I'm starting to have a feeling that I shouldn't have done this

United States
February 9, 2009 9:25pm CST
But I did any way and see if anybody could give me some advice. My friend called me stating that another friend or used to be friend of ours, well this what happened, my friend she is pregnant and the there is this girl that we used to be friends with, she would always call my friend and tell her all her problems and stress her out. So when my friend found out that she was pregnant she decided to break off the friendship, because she gets stressed with the other girls problems. So, she breaks it off removes her off of myspace and thats it. Well, the girl she was that my friend removed off of myspace as her friend she confronts her and says why did you remove me off of myspace. Then my friend tells her that she is pregnant and that she needs her to stop calling her with all her problems, she has a baby to worry about and she doesn't need someone stressing her out right now and that she needs to focus on the baby that is growing in her cause she doesn't want to lose her baby. So, let me tell you a bit more, before I continue with this story. My friend married a man that is twice her age and I personally believe that age doesn't matter and that as long as you love each other, then there shouldn't be a problem. Okay this other girl, both her and I know. I broke our friendship with this other girl, because of some issues we had. If you read back a few comments I started you'll see what I mean. But anyway, well this girl, she would tell her that it isn't right for her to marry that man of that age. She is 27 and he is 50. She tells her that its gross to see them kissing and stuff in the pictures and stuff. So well, that day, when my friend told me that she had told her that she was having a baby, the girl told her that she could not believe that she was having a baby with that old b%^&rd and that is nasty and so on. Her husband was there when she was on the phone telling my friend that and he told her that she can't talk to her any more because he is tired of her putting him down and well my friend is too. Well I got tired of it as well, because that is my friend and if she loves a man that age, then that is her business, I have nothing against her being in love and married and having a baby with someone who is twice her age. So I message the girl and I told her that she was wrong for what she did and that she shouldn't have said what she said to her. So the girl messaged me back and stated that she didn't know what I was talking about. When I told her she said she didn't say anything like that. And she thought that I was making it all up and I need to stop lying and being jealous. And so on. So I was like I'm not lying, if you would like to verify it we can all talk on the phone in conference and talk about it. Well, my friend had already agreed to talk about this over the phone to verify that she said it, but the other girl did not want to talk about it over the phone or verify that she did not say it. She basically said no, I don't need to prove myself to anyone. So which makes me think that she is lying. I knew if that was me and I knew that I did not say something, I will do whatever it takes to even save a friendship. My friend even stated that her husband would verify she said it. Now I'm confused and thought maybe I shouldn't have gotten in between this. But if she did say it, then she shouldn't have put her two sense in about how she felt about my friend and her husband having a baby together. She did the same thing of the sort to me and my husband, when she didn't agree with him being a different religion then me. So I know it is possible for her to say something like that. I'm the type of person though that will stick up for my friends no matter what. Sorry so long, but what does everyone think of this should I have gotten in the middle of this and stook up for my friend.
1 response
@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
10 Feb 09
honestly it sounds kind of petty.... I know how it is to be stressed when pregnant and critisized but to keep going on about it isn't the way to go, if you want the problem to go away it's ok to confront it, but it seems you should have possibly waited for another time when she came in contact with your friend after her husband said to stop calling or contacting her, if anything get a restraining order on the woman and that will be the end of it. It may seem like an endless problem, but there has to be some kind of solution to go on about it without being a protagonist. Sorry just my two cents. It's not worth much but hey, I'm trying to be honest. I don't agree with the woman about the age difference. my sister is married to a man that is twice as old as she is and has a son and a daughter from her. so that woman's opinions can be tossed out the window, who cares what she thinks, as long as your friend and her husband are happy together, that's all that really matters.
• United States
10 Feb 09
Thanks for the advice and I totally agree with the whole age thing and thanks for telling me what you thought on it, thats basically what I wanted.