What would you advice me
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
February 9, 2009 9:58pm CST
LAst weekend, I had a heated argument with my immediate superior. The situation was: I was scheduled to report to my second area of responsibility, however, the one who will repair my computer in my office was scheduled that day. I have to wait for him to tell him the defects of my computer and the other computers in my office. Suppose to be, after the computers will be fix, that's the time that I am going to my second area of responsibility since my second area is quiet far. it will be tiresome for me to go to my second area then comeback here in my first area then go back again to my second area. When my immediate superior called up, she was questioning me why I didn't report to my second area. I told her my reasons but she got angry at me. I don't think she needs to get angry since I have my explanation and most importantly, I don't have something to do in my second area. They just want to see me there. When my immediate superior got angry, I flare up too until we have a heated argument. Do you think I did the right thing? If I'm wrong, what should I have done? and what do you advice me to do now? Thank you so much..
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16 responses
@oinedes (25)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
Yeah, trinidadvelasco was right.
I already experienced that kind of scenario but I always keep on mind that I need that job to help my daily needs. Sometimes our superiors traited us that way, because they are our superior. But if you have a time to show them that what you have done was right and their wrong in well-mannered approach, I guess they will learn something from you.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
..thanks too.. This days, I think and I feel I have to go out from this institution.. I'm thinking of applying for a job in other institutions.. I know one institution who needs like me.. If ever I'd be hired there, I'll be filing my resignation here.. I don't like how our immediate boss treats me.. she is always finding a fault for me and she never listen to my explanation.. she always assume that she is right.. I don't still feel okey with her now so maybe I just talk to her if my feelings will cool down.. I'm still mad actually..
@zioness999 (25)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Just weigh up things girl. Don't pack things yet if you are unsure of your destination. There is no good company nor managers with a halo over their head. You cannot change the system, office politicking are rampant, wide mouthed boss are prevalent, mean jobs are part of your work. You know what you should ought to do, stay away from negative people. Be less emotional, better befriend your enemies. Play their court and know their games. Wink, wink.:)
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
well, raynejasper, you should not have flared up, too. when situations like this one arises, always remember to hold your horses. remember to keep calm when an angry person is infront of you or, is confronting you in any way at all. fire cannot be met with fire. that will be disastrous. when there is fire in front of you, always make yourself that icy water.
now that harm has been done, say your sorries to your superior. it is always best to be humble. then explain your side again. when your superior has cooled down, he/she will have the ears to listen to you. at the time when he/she was really angry feeling crossed, he/she has no ears to listen to you then. that explains why your superior didn't get your point the first time.
always allow an agry person sufficient time to cool off, before expecting any good amount of understanding from your point of view.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
..ok.. thank you very much.. yeah.. you're right.. I was just carried away by my anger.. My boss has been doing this even before but I just let things pass.. However, this is the time when I feel the need to say my piece too.. But then, I made a mistake.. thanks really..
@ivan2000bd (1009)
• Sweden
18 Mar 09
i have a advise for you and that is tp be happy and take care of your self.
@brendagalpo (10)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
First and foremost you should not have lost your temper during that time. You could have remained calm and tried to explain your side. I would suggest that you wait for things to settle down. Once everything is good talk to your supervisor again. Try to explain once more you reasons. Apologize if needed.
@saimajo (10)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
It is not right to argue with your superior for that matter. You should have informed him/her first of the sheduled repair of your computer so he wont get angry. He might even told you what to do which is to report still in the second area even if you have nothing to do in there. You just showed laziness in what you did and what you resoned out to your boss. Of course your boss will question you and get mad at you. So I thing you were wrong in what you did. You just created a gap between you and your superior.
@chelord (13)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
I do understand your feeling why you have done it. But on the other hand, you shouldn't have argue with her because the more she got angry with you. Maybe it would be better if you were still submassive when you expalaned your side. We need to be understanding in every thing we encounter in the workplace because all those things are part of it. Anyway you already did it just better luck nextime.
@khia07 (12)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
well i guess you're really in trouble now with your boss. Even if you think you have a valid reason you shouldn't argue with your boss like that because he's still your superior. Since you're already on this tough situation, just face the consequences of your action. Apologize to your boss, you must talk to him in a calm manner and tell him again what exactly happen. In case he got angry again, just listen and don't answer back! That should settle your problem!
@josecarlos06 (12)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
in my point of view you should hold your temper. you need to follow what is in your schedule on that day. setting a priority is one of the key in work. even if you do not have to do in that area you must check it. you should be flexible at work. make sure that you can do a 2 jobs at a same time, flexibility is very important in work place.
@machakada_09 (11)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Hi Raynejasper it is ok for you as a employee to flare with your superior why? because every employee in a certain companies or offices have also the right to explain what happen. Every employee had the right to protect their self against to their superior unless your company don't have any rules to be followed when it comes to the case of the employee versus their superior.Most of the time that scenario is actually happen nowadays may be your superior want to fired you for that reason only but it is better to fight for your right as a employee...
thank you very much.. Ms.Reynejasper..
from Nicole..
@sedeta (19)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I guess, you are wrong, ask me why. Well, when you arrive on your second area and saw that there is something that's happening, you should REPORT to your superior. Although you have a good intention of working on your first area, always inform. This may also lessen the chances of overlapping the work of your colleagues. Please understand also your superior that she's just doing her job, and so are you. If there are unnecessary things that happened specially in your first area, a lot of people, including you could be blame.
@rhocky99 (30)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Hello,raynejasper?,If I were you,i will do the same.As not going to your second area of responsibility because you can't be irresponsible enough to reschedule again your chek up of computers,and go to your second area of just to show up. But, on the other side of the situation you should not answer back your boss, you explained, she didn't accepted, it's not your fault allready. Answering back your boss in that manner is not appropriate thing to do since you're the one whose on the hot place. As much as possible be calm to talk to your manager because flaring up with them might cause worst results. As an employee you have to be choosy of your words not to make a fight with your boss.
@rhocky99 (30)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hmp,, basically!I think you are in the right place
as long as you did not make your self higher to
your boss,because your"re still his/her employee
maybe it is better for you to seek the person who should
repairyour computer at that day! in order for that person
to explain that , at that day the computer is not
available to use.because I think your boss need some other person to
explain!however, I advice you to keep your pride below the ground!
.
@blitzace_roshin (11)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I do not know which one to go because, your superior might just doing his/her job. Sometimes people should be calm and relax to defend his/her self. Becoming hot will cause more trouble, you might even end up losing your job. Consider the situation. But if that superior is just always got angry because of just simple thing without hearing excuses from his/her subordinate, then there might be something wrong with that supervisor. Supervisor sometimes takes the advantage to take the authority without justice because they have a higher status. One thing i will advice to you...leave if you are not satisfied anymore.
@rhubee (13)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Well,maybe you have the right to explain to your superior with what had happened but, still, she is your superior. You shouldnt flared up too with her, even though you knew that your in the right track. With that, there is a big possibility for her to fire you up. You must act as a professional, just do the tasks assigned to you and perform well. When you follow them and problems occur, thats the time for you to complain with your superior.
@zioness999 (25)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
I am like you before. I tend to be emotional and sensitive to words that could hit my ego. In the office environment, one must take a great dose of self control and patience. We are surrounded by different kinds of people with varied personalities that some are out of tangents. We came from different backgrounds in life. When things are like that, just pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and think before you speak. Just say "Sir I am sorry for the what I did". I just wanted to explain the situation. I don't intend to disobey you, bla, bla, blah. Supervisors may "sometimes" have the right to yell at subordinates but not as always. Explain it to him, that you were hurt, so that in return he'll know why you flared up in the office.
@elai03 (12)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
i think you did the wrong way.. you should not flare up too with him.. you should net argue with him. remember that he is your supervisor.. lets say even iof youre a right track, you yould not did it.. in working, we should all be professionals.. maybe your supervisor is waiting for you but you did not showed up that's why he got angry. you cannot blame him.. because if you are also in his place, waiting for someone but did'nt showed up, you will also get angry.. so even if you have nothing to do in your second area but to see you there, you should do it because they are waiting for you.. ;)) that's for me..
