February 10, 2009 11:02pm CST
my freind is having some problem ' her problem is her boyfriend, he confess to her that he an intimate relation with another mam and also with a women. her boyfriend is asking for forgiveness, and saying that he will not do it again. of course my friend want a break up, but the guy insist.. my friend is asking me on what to do? i don't know what say, mybe if i post this problem someone will give me advise..
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11 Feb 09
Trust is really an important issue in a relationship. Once it's broken, it's really hard to fix it up. If she's my friend, I'd ask her, is he worth a second chance? Of course, you're friend is the only one who knows her boyfriend best. So it's up to her if she still wants him or not. But if she does, her boyfriend must do all he can to patch things up with her. It's hard to find a forgiving girlfriend, but it's harder to find an honest boyfriend whom she can trust again with all her heart.
11 Feb 09
It is upto your friend to decide whether to continue the relationship or not.But I appreciate that boyfriend's attitude of confessing his past lives in volunteer.So,I think he can be trusted,if he regrets for his past affairs and now want to live with your friend hereafter.Let her decide herself.Cheers!
23 Feb 10
What you mean a man and women??? I honestly don't know also gaelmago. If she loves the guy still and would be able to forgive him despite of his betrayal. If she believes that after that incident, she can still trust the guy and would be able to totally, I mean completely forgive and forget the guy... then go. I think she should examine herself more and closely. Nobody can tell her what she should do... It is her who should decide on that matter. But if you were to ask me, personally, I have a big problem with that... I think I would be hunted with that "unfaithfulness act"... and when something bad happened, there is a chance that, that incident would be brought out again and again, even if it is not the issue... it might still flash back to my mind. I believe that once trust is broken, it is hard to gain it back... though it is possible but it takes time and a lot of HARDWORK! The guy must prove himself so much! Your friend needs time to think about this situation. I know letting go is hard, as forgetting as well... Only time could tell. Don't rush things...