Are you worried that if you lost weight you might have an affair?

United States
February 12, 2009 12:51am CST
I have a horrible marriage. I am counting the years until my kids grow up so we can get divorced. I already tried to get divorced but my husband fought it and fought it and it was turning into a custody battle that I was unwilling for the kids to go through-- so I am just biding my time until I can leave. I try to be as pleasant as possible, and I am faithful to my vows. I do however battle with the temptation to have an affair. I have been struggling to lose 60 pounds. Everytime I start to lose a substantial amount of weight, I start to feel attractive, and when that happens, I start to worry that I might have an affair! Has this ever happened to you?
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@sdwfstone (130)
• China
12 Feb 09
i'm sorry to see that but i think your marriage is concluded, you have a new sky,you should feel happy because you leave your husband you did nothing wrong in the past times,even the judgement will give you enough time to live with your kids don't worry,you lose weight because your heart is losing weight too
• United States
12 Feb 09
I really can't leave my husband, because he is abusive to the kids when I am not around. I can't afford for them to be alone with him, because he could get violent. I already tried to leave him, but the court was going to give him unsupervised visits for a few days a week as well as the possibility of summers with him. For their protection, I remain with him to supervise him at all times. I don't want my kids to have to get injured before the court believes me that he can be violent. I spent all my money trying to get supervision for his visits. It was just not possible. So I am stuck. I didn't mean to say I want to have an affair. I am working to avoid the possibility by avoiding men, and discussions with men, dressing modestly, etc. It's just in my mind sometimes and I push it out. But when I lose weight the temptation is greater to find comfort on companionship with another man. I know that is wrong and I will not do it, but it does make it hard, psychologically, to lose weight. It is so much easier to be heavy and unattractive. The moment I lose weight, men start to talk to me more, etc. It is really hard for me to maintain pure thoughts and holy intentions. It exhausts me. On the other hand, the kids hate how heavy I am, and so do I.
• China
12 Feb 09
there are so many different things in different countries. i think you kan take photoes carefully when your husband menace your kids that's forceful evidence to proof his behavior if you are born in my country, you are lucky when you are born in the city,you can lawsuit for your title but if you born in the village,no one will hear what you have said,divoece is very hard for a woman in China
@srganesh (6349)
• India
12 Feb 09
You care for your kids and your husband needs you.Then why do you want a divorce?What is the reason behind it?Didn't you like your husband or just some qualities in him?Whatever it may be,you shall sit on a face to face discussion with him to get rid of your dislikes.Even you both shall visit a psychiatrist.I think you have more depression so that you are putting on more weight.Better consult a psychiatrist soon.He will help you out of this.Cheers!