do you want to be my friend
By lacusGavril
@lacusGavril (106)
February 13, 2009 2:12am CST
People around me say's I'm different. they say i am the kind of person who doesn't have any reactions of what is gong around. but the truth is that there is something with me in which i cant figure out. i used to be alone, i am more comfortable. sometimes i ate alone, going to library alone, hanging around alone. in my case i am the type of person who cannot show the real me, the kind of person who cannot interpret, even say what i really feel and what i want. i am more comfortable with the guys, and i think i can express my feeling with them easily. and this case is only when i am with my friends. i cant really express my feelings. Actually, it is difficult for me to start a friendship specially for the girls. i met girls whom to be my classmate in other subject in which i wanted to be my friends, but I'm afraid that they may reject me. i am just glad looking at them. the reason which for this is that i am afraid of rejection, disappointment,frustration. you?
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4 responses
@twistedangellinda (174)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Please don't take this the wrong way, but have you been assessed
by a psychologist as maybe having Asperger's Syndrome? What your
describing are classic traits of a person with Asperger's. And
yes if you like I'll be your friend!
@urbandekay (18278)
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13 Feb 09
Whilst those suffering from Asperger syndrome do lack empathy and have problems with social skills they are typically not withdrawn, indeed they may be very verbose usually in a monologuic fashion, engage in repetitious behaviour and are often clumsy. This is very different from the situation described here
all the best urban
@lacusGavril (106)
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20 Feb 09
well thank you,i appreciate it.,i guest i'll try to assessed in pshycology,,
@twistedangellinda (174)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Not necessarily. In Tony Attwood's "The Complete Guide To Asperger's Syndrome" he says and I quote "He observed that the children's social maturity and social reasoning were delayed and some aspects of their social abilities were quite unusual at any stage of development. he children had difficulty making friends and they were often teased by other children. LacusGavril states "People around me say's I'm different. they say i am the kind of person who doesn't have any reactions of what is gong around."
I personally live with two children that have Asperger's Syndrome and I can attest to the fact that a person with Asperger's seems to sometimes display the behavior of not knowing what is going on around them. When an Aspie is over stimulated or is having other sensory issues they seem to go off in a place that is all their own. They give you a odd blank or staring look. When you call their name over and over they may not answer you.
They also have a hard time making friends and keeping friends due to the fact that most Aspies stim. By this I mean they might do something like flap their hands, jump up and down, or turn in circles. Other people tend to see this as abnormal behavior when in fact it is normal behavior for a Aspie because it's their way of calming themselves down in a situation where they are over stressed.
May I recommend an excellent book called "Elijah's Cup" by Valarie Paradiz? Very insightful book that not only gives one a good understanding of Asperger's Syndrome but also High Function Autism.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
13 Feb 09
I will be your friend and share with you if at all you start opening up. For me you seem to be a bit introvert as I gathered this from your post. well there are some people who like to be left alone than being amidst their friends all the while. This is therefore interpreted by different people in different way.
so far your problem with befriending girls I do not think they would reject you. If you are friendly to others they too reciprocate on the same note. Why feel scared of being rejected? Some might really reject but majority would not. After all you do not approch them with a love proposal. so be cool and start gathering more friend around.
@lacusGavril (106)
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20 Feb 09
thanks,, you are so nice,.. I guest I will start making friend now...
@jbosari (155)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I agree with krajibg. If all else fails, just smile! People don't trust silence because it makes them feel insecure. They wonder what you are thinking. If someone looks a little uncomfortable because you are quiet, just explain that you are shy. If you can't think of anything to talk about, that is fine. Talk about them! People love to talk about themselves. Ask the person you are with about something they are wearing and let them talk. This is the quickest way to make friends without doing all the talking.
Good Luck!
@Bohemian77 (277)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Welcome to mylot.com. You should make alot of new friends here, most of the folks are real nice :) I'm new here myself, and I'm having a great time. Just try to find topics that interest you, and start posting!
