What do you do when your kid starts answering you back?

Philippines
February 13, 2009 9:43am CST
It has been my predicament for some time that my second child who is 14 and a half years old starts answering me back. He does not respect me in the true sense of the word. He does not follow my rules. Above all, he does not like to study his lessons. I tried to talk with him like an adult but I still got no positive result. What should I do to manage my kid. I don't want to hurt him physically. that's why we always end up shouting at each other.
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@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
Maybe, you should show him more love. Tell him that you love him that's why you are correcting his mistakes. Tell him also that you get hurt whenever he answers back. And of course, you have to pray a lot. We mothers only want the best for our kids. We want them to be a good person. I think our children do not understand our motives. They will just realize that only when they became parents. Don't loose hope because there is nothing impossible if we believe in God. Just be patient.God bless!
@ljbinkop (744)
• United States
13 Feb 09
If your child is 14 and is only now really giving you a problem with answering back, then I think you must be doing something right, because I have a 7 and 13 year old (both girls) and they smart mouth me all the time! They aren't awful, but kids can be really sassy because they think they know EVERYTHING when they are teens, especially. To handle the situation, I remain very calm and tell then that their attitude is inappropriate, and it often works. I think it makes then realize if you do not lose your temper that you may know more than they know about somthing. You get back from your children that energy that you put out to them, so just realize that this is most likely a stage that they will outgrow. (Hopefully)