I'm getting married, But I don't want children right away... What should I do?

@vankae (447)
United States
November 9, 2006 5:48pm CST
Should you be honest upfront?
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12 responses
@gongleigo (968)
• China
9 Nov 06
DO not make love.........
@shooie (4988)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Do not make love?....lol Birth Control works and can still have the fun of the marriage...do not make love....shakes head and giggles again
@shooie (4988)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Always be honest. A relationship built on a lie or lies will crumble fast....no trust will be there. Enjoy married life couple years then think about family.
@skyblade (483)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Its always best to be honest and up front, especially if you are marrying the person.
• Singapore
9 Nov 06
i would inform my future husband about this and see what he haves to say. I always believe that honesty is the best policy, so it would be best for me to tell him straight about this. after all, getting married means commitment to each other, so it's only fair that he knows about this decision too. Good luck!
• United States
9 Nov 06
Of course you should be honest. If you aren't honest now, it can ruin your relationship later. Maybe your future spouse doesn't want kids right away either, in which case you will be relieved.
@_hope_ (3908)
• Australia
9 Nov 06
hey who said you need to have children straight away you have a lifetime to have them enjoy your married life first and talk to your partener be open about it they will understand
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
9 Nov 06
Of course, you should be honest about that and everything else. If you can't communicate before the wedding, then don't get married.
9 Nov 06
yes it is
• United States
9 Nov 06
should say before you get married lol they should understand true love will last with or without children right away
@jc51189 (308)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Yes, always be honest with your partner. I believe waiting to have children is a good thing. I know when I get married, me and my gf both agreed we would wait one year before having children.
@saq786 (736)
9 Nov 06
yes you should be honest and tell that you dont want to rush things and have childer just yet, and maybe in couple of years time you will be ready and you can have children. its better to be honest.
@savarina (746)
• Romania
9 Nov 06
Of course you should be honest. It's very important that you make a carrier first and children after. If you make those children first ... they will take all your time.