What to do with my son?

United States
November 9, 2006 6:47pm CST
Help! i think my world as a parent is coming apart, my son who has a full scholarship to college to be a sports med doctor just told me his girlfriend who also is in college is 6 weeks pregnant and is thinking about keeping it. i of course am total against it and not only want to say some not so nice words to her and her parents for not spending time with her and always leaving her home to care for her younger brother, i know in my heart i can blame no one but my son because i taught him how to protect himself and love all women respectfully, this weekend we are going to sit down with the parents and try to fix this i do not want my son or his girlfriend to bring a baby into this world they are no where near ready be parents i still buy all his clothes, can anyone give me advise on how to deal with her family and her because i can feel myself getting angery just writting about it.
3 responses
• United States
10 Nov 06
Yikes! That is a lot to be faced with for all of you. However, it is not right to tell them they cannot keep the baby. They have to find the best way for both of them to agree to deal with this. I wish you the best.
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• Philippines
27 Dec 06
whether you like it or not your son is going to be a father, don't get angry,we cannot expect what we planned to happen, everything has it's purpose,think on the brighter side,,,just allow that baby to live,it is your granchild.your own flesh and blood,,,accept things as they are,continue your life and being a father,,and get ready to be a grandfather...you know,a baby is always a blessing,,,do not plan to abort,it's a sin,not everybody is gifted to have babies...let them take care of the baby and let them be responsible of what they done...just support your son...
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
10 Nov 06
Please don't do anything that might risk your relationship with your son! If they truly want this baby and you force them to get an abortion, he might resent you for the rest of his life. Take a deep breath! It's not the end of the world and this happens every day. I have a Niece who was 14 years old when she got pregnant. She had a very supporting family and she stayed in school. Her beautiful daughter is now 5 years old and my cousin will be graduating from college next year. I also have a relative who found out after she broke up with her boyfriend that she was pregnant. She also has a very supportive family and today she's married to a wonderful man and they have two children together. She was in college when she got pregnant and took her final exams in the hospital the day after she gave birth! Now she's doing her Masters at the University. I don't know how old your son or his girlfriend are but please please please do not interfer with their lifes. I know it's hard but I'm sure you would be a wonderful grandmother and you will be very proud of your son. Talk to the girlfriends parents. Maybe they have the means to help them out if you don't. Together the two families should be able to help them. God bless you and your family. I wish you all the best, no matter what you decide to do.