How does your love interest get along with your family?

@katran (590)
United States
February 15, 2009 4:48pm CST
I had a couple serious boyfriends before my current boyfriend, but I did not like their families very well and they did not like mine. One of my boyfriends really did not like my mom, which is part of the reason that I broke up with him eventually. However, my current boyfriend really likes my mom, gets along great with my extended family, and I love his family too. In fact, I cannot wait until I am officially part of his family, because they make me feel right at home. What about you? Have you had any problems with your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend getting along with your family? How important is it to you that your significant other get along with your family? Would it make or break your relationship?
2 people like this
10 responses
• United States
15 Feb 09
My boyfriend gets along with my family for the most part. He has some issues with the sister that I am closest to. She likes to rag on him all the time. My mother thinks its because she feels like he is stealing me from her. We were always close and now he's always around. When it comes to my boyfriends family I honestly don't really like most of them. That kind of bothers my boyfriend but I really can't help it. His family is full of so many issues. That's not his fault and he loves them so I try to put on a happy face and spend time with them whenever needed.
1 person likes this
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
When I met my husband my parents did not care for him. I love my mother but this is my life. They did not even come to my wedding because they did not think that it would happen. But it happened and now 12 years later they have come to accept him. His family is another story though. I have liked his parents right from the get go. I am okay with a couple of his siblings but the third I could do without.
• Turkey
16 Feb 09
My husband, for the most part, gets along with my family but they have their moments (mostly him and my mother)where they'll have words. It's very hard on me when I see that they're not getting along because I love my family and we have always been pretty close. Like I tell my husband, "I love you all and I want you all to at least try to get a long". I know that because of this, he tries to get along with them. I have noticed lately however, that he's losing patients with some of them and it just makes it so uncomfortable and stressful to be around my family because of this because my family can be very sensative to things like this and so, it really tends to stress me out. I have spoke to him about it and he's been trying to have more patience because he knows how much it means to me... As for his family, my relationship with them has always been pretty rocky but over the last year I really have been trying to get along with them and so, it's been going really well. We definitely more civil with one another and I know that my husband appreciates that. I have a major problem with his younger brother and his wife. His wife is mostly the problem. She's very young and opinionated and she's the type of person who always thinks that she's right and can never see the other's side of things. She's such a hard person to deal with and so, because of this, her and I haven't been on speaking terms for the past year. Her husband and I say hello and goodbye when he's on the phone with my husband but other than that, we keep our distance. I put up with him for my husband because I know that it's his brother and I want to treat his family the way that I would expect him to treat mine. We all just need to get along and keep putting up with one another for love of the other...
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
16 Feb 09
When I was dating, it didn't really matter. But my family loves my hubby. And don't refer to him as an in law. Just as son. It is nice. And makes things easier in the long run.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Honestly, my husband doesn't get along great with my family. That has a lot to do with the circumstances of how we got together, though. I dropped out of school to move away with him and my family didn't like that. My dad has kind of come around and they are cordial to each other. He is polite to my mom, but she sometimes treats him terrible. She came to visit one summer and basically was treating him like the hired help. I couldn't believe how she was acting. I got really mad. I don't get along too great with his family. They have some religious and parenting views that they are hardcore about and that we don't agree with, so we have butted heads in the past. I just basically don't talk to them about much besides what's going on and the weather and stuff. It didn't break our relationship, obviously. (We're still married after 7 years.) It was hard at times, though. I think that if two people really love each other, though, their families shouldn't matter.
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
i did experience that before,against all odds huh,but still we end up husband and wife.i don't care even if they did not like as long as my hubby loves me so much and we love each other.who cares anyways?
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
16 Feb 09
My fiance and I get along with each other's families quite well. We don't see our families very often, well except for his parents. I trust his mom and dad's opinion and we will often times go to her for an opinion. Feel right at home too!
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
my fiance gets along well with my family. as an only child my parents are understandably strict and shielded me away from boys, but with my fiance they've welcomed him like he was the son they never had. in fact they favor him much more than me now. ahahaha. and what's amazing is that he was my first and only boyfriend. I guessed we were able to prove ourselves that we werent just some delinquent youngsters and that we could be trusted.
• United States
16 Feb 09
It kinda would make me break up a relationship. However that wont be a case cause my family dont know about her. If they did they would be seriously pissed off and would force me to break up with her. I dont want that. I really like this girl. But if she did know my family and didnt like them then I would probably would end up breaking up with her. But if I hated my family (which I dont and never will) then I would care less whether she like them or not.
• United States
15 Feb 09
Before we got married, my mom and my husband got along wonderfully. I couldn't have asked for a better relationship between them. But, after we got married it flipped. We decided to surprise everyone and get married at our engagement party and my mom was really hurt. She blamed it all on my husband even though it was my idea! Then when my daughter was born, we only wanted it to be the two of us in the room and again my mom got her feelings hurt and blamed my husband even though it was a joint decision. Now, we're moving out of the country and of course that's all him too! I guess it's just easier for her to blame everything on him than it is to accept that I have different beliefs than she does. Having such animosity between them definitely is a strain on our relationship. But, he's my husband and the father of my daughter and my commitment is with him 100%. On the flip side, I get along with his family great!