Sisters Roomate Trouble

United States
February 16, 2009 9:06pm CST
My sis has a roomate that I don't much care for. She isn't friendly--when I help my sister carry stuff to her room her roomate never says hi or even smiles. She barely looks up at us...but that isn't the worst of it. When my sister isn't in the room--her roomate lets her friends take ALL of my sisters food. She keeps most of it under the bed for space; and she told me one day she went to get some and it was all gone! And I JUST found out that her roomate and/or her friends are using my sisters printer. My sister got brand new ink from my parents, my sister used it ONCE to print--and she found out today her ink was empty and she couldn't print a paper she needed! I told her she needed to confront her roomate because it's costing my parents money when all her friends eat my sisters food and use up all her ink! But my sister is too shy to say anything. And she doesn't want me to tell my parents because they'll want her to say something too and they'll be mad if she doesn't.
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@dodo19 (31949)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
17 Feb 09
if your sister doesn't want to confront her roommate, then I think that the only other option that she may want to consider is to move out. And trust me I know how it feels when your roommate takes some of your food. My fiance and I live in an apartment on our school's campus. The agreement that we had with our roommates is that we get our food, with perhaps the exception of my fiance and I, who get the food together. At least twice now, my fiance has made juice, from frozen cans things, and at least twice he turns to me and asks me if I drank the juice, which I admitted I didn't. I even put on a sticker on our juice container with our names on it, which disappeared. We know which roommate it is. So, I know how your sister feels. However, like I said, if your sister doesn't want to discuss this with her roommate, the only other advice that I can give is that tries to find another place to live or something.
• United States
17 Feb 09
Well she lives in a dorm room at school, not an apartment. So I don't know how easy it would be for her to find another dorm room. This dorm building is good for her because it's close to her classes--so she doesn't want to leave it. But my sister comes home every weekend, and brings stuff to school to last her through the week. She brings food so she doesn't get hungry between classes and so she doesn't have to worry about spending money on food. But when her roomates friends eat all her food, she has to wait a week to get more.
@dodo19 (31949)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
17 Feb 09
My apartment is also a dorm room. It's part of a university residence. Perhaps your sister may be able to talk to someone in charge about this issue.
• United States
18 Feb 09
I don't think my sister would ever report her even. She is just SO submissive with other people. I am a little too, but I do have a breaking point--and thats when stuff starts costing me and my family money.
@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
It seems this person has an anything goes attitude. Suggest that your sister help herself to anything belonging to the room mate that can be sold to cover the costs of the food and printer ink. I would also be disabling the printer (take the cord with her when she goes anywhere) and that goes for anything else too. Tell your sis to find out what others do when this happens...there must be an acceptable way of handling this sort of situation. I totally understand that your sis is not confrontational but it's really important that she take steps so this person isn't taking advantage of her and walking all over her. There's a challenge here and a lesson to be learned...this situation needs to be dealt with...good luck to her...
• United States
19 Feb 09
Thats a really good idea with the printer cord thing! I didn't even think of that one :P lol. But I do think my sister mentioned her roomate having a busted printer...could the roomate just put her printers cord on my sisters printer? But I'll defeniatly tell her to start taking something that makes the printer work with her! Thanks
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@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
20 Feb 09
If it's a different brand it might have a different cord. She could take the ink cartridge out...lol.
@Thoroughrob (11756)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Someone needs to stand up to the roommate. That is horrible. She should by the ink at least and some extra groceries. Can your sister lock her door?
• United States
7 Mar 09
She lives in the school dorm; so her and her roomate share one room with 2 beds. it's a tight space so they basically have nothing private...they also share a closet and a bathroom with the people in the next dorm! I dont envy her! I like my space :P lol
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I don't like that kind of person. If I were your sister I will instantly talk to her roomate and say what she really feel. It is not a good idea to used other persons property without their presence, it is similar to stealing. Using without permission is a no no to me. Or if you like , move your sister to other room or just help her to speak with her roomate to solve this. Maybe her roomate is unaware of what she is doing is wrong.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Hello LilyoftheThorns! OMG! Your sister roomate is horrible. I can't live with that kind of person. I can tell that your sister is a very nice girl because if that will happen to me, my roomate would probably be in trouble.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
I know this is difficult for her... these things normally happen when someone like your sis is introduced to a new group.. this is what they call initiation... Or maybe this girl doesnt want her company thats why she/ they are making things difficult for her...Advise her to befriend her/them if nothing changes then thats the time to change room.. this is too bad because this might lead to other bad things that might happen bet your sis and this girl/group. But i admit this is difficult for her because definitely she cannot concentrate with her studies with all these things happening... also let the headmaster or whoever is incharge of the dorm to do something to prevent this from happening again..thats her job!to make the place peaceful and liveable for everybody... also inform your parents of what happened so that they too can remedy this and so that you will not be faulted if something bad happens..