do you do everything for your husband

my dear lorraine that is not the way to be a wife. i am married for six years already and we share all the chores with my wife. she does not work. she chooses to be a hands on 24/7 mom when we had a child, but still we share chores in the house. i also work during night time but i still help her around specially on running errands. you are not his mom you are his wife. that is different. i need you husband needs to appreciate you and respect you as well.

My fiance and I work together in most cases. When it comes to cleaning, I do some and he does some. We live with his parents so we don't have that much responsibility with cleaning, but the things we do do are to help. If mostly fix the food, and when I say fix, I just make things that don't take much cooking. I don't know how to cook to tell you the truth! lol! I hope that your husband will start doing more around the house! I think he is just so used to doing otherwise, and I guess you can't blame him! It's hard to get out of habits!

He will never realise that you need help and if you demand help from him, it will only strain the relation. I am seeing this for so many months now. Ours was a love marriage and we stayed with my in-laws for 10 years and I did not have to do much. I only attended office and did some light work at home. Now its been 15 months since we have shifted and living on our own and these months have been like hell for me. I am doing everything and believe me everything. There is nothing my hubby does except taking out the garbage, submitting the bills and going to the market for fresh fish, once a week on Sunday. In a nutshell, I look after the house, our son, his studies and my office. We have spoken about it many times but nothing doing…he genuinely feels he cant do any work at home, he just doesn’t know how to! What more can you say without starting a fight?