The Father of my Daughter

.It is better to know directly from your husband than from an outsider. This will be a very painful period for you but you will get over it. The thought of leaving him and being a lone parent may be giving you the jitters. Dont let self pity engulf you. You are strong and will learn to love again. Your daughter will have a better father in life, one who will love mum and her. If your relationship was shaky for a long time, then it is better to part. Be brave. Are you working. Will he give you maintainance. Get a job and start life all over again. Go out, make friends, see movies and give tons and tons of love to your girl. Loving means letting go. If he really loved you, he would come back to you. I know it sounds all very good and that practically you will have a hell of a time trying to adjust to this, but like I said, you will get over it. Always remember this 'THIS TOO SHALL PASS AWAY' All bad times go and good times come again. Good luck and keep smiling. Ill pray for you.

I feel I'm in the same position as you are, Me and my boyfriend been together for 2 and half years and we have a daughter, for the last 2 months it feels like there's nothing between us, we only still together because of my daughter. I love him very much and I do everything possible to keep him happy, but it seems like he doesn't care about me anymore, he'll go 5 days without calling me or talking to me, I don't know whats going on with him, but when I ask him if he wants to break up he says he loves me... today we went out for lunch and I told him how I'm feeling lonely and neglected, he told me I should find a new boyfriend. I left him there and started walking home with my daughter, then he came after me, saying he loved me and I'm too hard headed then he tried to kiss me but I just kept walking...if he loves me then why would he say I need to find a new boyfriend...I'm so confused, I have been crying all day...

Soooooooooo so sorry to hear he has said that he's only connected with you because of your child. Some might say he's being cruel but maybe he's just trying to be honest. If you want my honest opinion the only thing I can tell you is that ONLY time will make this easier for you to bear. When I split up with my ex husband after being with him since my teens till I was over 30 I thought I would never get over him. I thought the pain in my chest would never go away and that I would never love anyone again. I have now been with the most wonderful man in the world (to me anyway) for 7 years and I rarely even given a moment's thought to my ex who I pined for for nearly 4 years! Honestly and sincerely, everyone that I know who has been through heartbreak has only been able to get over it with time. Some of them busy themselves with their career or studies or bringing up their children giving them lots of love and attention and ensuring they put them first, some have gone on to find another love and are happier now than they ever were with their ex. Just think of a day when you can wake up and not feel sad that he's not in your life - be confident in yourself and know that it wasn't meant to be... x