ohhh MY!...... what a nice guy!

@bombshell (11266)
Germany
February 20, 2009 3:12pm CST
i was discussing about my hubby´s friend who always visiting him and on time he always arrive 5 minutes before lunch.so today he was here again from lunch till dinner.he just went home at exactly 9:00 pm.if he would a nice guy he should consider that that my husband needs a rest during afternoon,after his recovery from heart attacked. this guy was realy annoying him.as i said i dont mind his doing it if not all the time or long hours but what he did is killing my husband visiting long hours! we cannot tell them that dont come,but we have idea next time,i will answer the call and if it is from him i will deny that hubby is not in the house,so what do you think? any sudgestion?
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8 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
21 Feb 09
It does sound as if your husband friend is just trying to be courteous and I suppose that he is unaware that the long hours he stays does not help your husband recover or give you time to tend to your husband. I would just tell your husband's friend that he is not up to visitors and that you will have him call him later when he is available to talk! I think that would be better then saying he isn't home!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
21 Feb 09
I agree with you, I think saying he is resting, he's had a long day. Or something to that extent would get the message across without being rude, and I definitely think its a better option, than he isnt home right now
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
SomeCowgirl thanks for the nice sudgestion,in that way we have manners.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
stacy yeah right and thanks for waking me up.coz i was thought we will lie to him if he calls again
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
20 Feb 09
[i]Hi bombshell, Oh my! Maybe he has a crush on you? or he loves your food? ANyway, just try do that next time or tell him your hubby is sleeping and he needs it. I am sure he will not insist! IS he single? I wonder......I hope he will be sensitive to your hubby's condition and the privacy also of the family![/i]
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
20 Feb 09
hahaha!oy My! i dont even look at his face because i dnt like his teeth! he is married with the russian.the wife always calling him.looks like he is a U.S.A. "Under Sa Asawa"
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• United States
20 Feb 09
[i]hahhaha..you're funny! ANyway, maybe he loves your food very much or he just need a company but still not good...I will be making alibi for sure to avoid his constant presence in the house! LOL![/i]
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
yes i will kick his butt out of my house next time.grabeh bitaw ok ra unta ug guafu!!!hahaha.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Thats way to long and if tiring your hubby out you might just have to be blunt and tell him that he cant come by for a few days till hubby is a little more better to receive company! and yup you could say that he wasnt home but you might get caught in a ie about it if he comes and finds him there.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
but we try to ignore his call since we have caller ID.do you know what? tonight past 9:00 pm we heared the door bell but we did not answer, because only know one person who is crazy time visiting us. just few minutes ago.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Feb 09
oh wow this must really be a nut. Calling at 9 pm I sure wouldnt be answering the door either1
• India
21 Feb 09
well to tell you.....you and your husband are being too nice to him....therwise if it was anyone else they would have old him to keep away....but yes the idea that you have in your mind is a good one... but if this doesnt work always....just tell him your problem....if he is a nice person he will understand else dont care about him....isnt your hubby's helth more important????
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
yes we are too nice to him.if he is coming on time while eating lunch,i cooked extra for him because its not nice that he is watching us while eating its like i cant chew my food so i cooked extra for him but looks like he over doing it.i am sure it will change soon.yeah my hubby´s tablet during the night he forget because they enjoyed talking.
• India
22 Feb 09
i am telling....you shoul really be focussed about ur husband's health....dont let him miss any tablets....and just take good care of him......
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
28 Feb 09
If i was instead of you I would leave it for my partner to tackle the issue. If he is weak and it is for his own good than I would do it. However i would consult him first.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
1 Mar 09
me and and hubby both dont like him if he stays longer.he is just a talker.
@Spook619 (335)
21 Feb 09
You could try making up things or arranging things that you have to do so that the visiting times are focibly reduced. But phone is still probably the best idea.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
first he called and talking about how many new jobless in germany,then after talking we heared the doorbell so we cant´t see no anymorebut i am sure it wil change soon
@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
oh my....!what a nice attitude he has!grrr,even i dont know this guy,i feel irritated too.based on what you said,he's really very annoying person.imagine,he went home 9pm.why dont you tell him to stay there till tomorrow so he will not get tired if he will go bach on the next day.grrrr,well maybe your ideaa is ok.just pretend that yourhubby is not there.or dont cook anymore he he.just eat lunch outside with your family.or lock the door and pretend that nobody's home.or buy a big dog and put the dog beside the door ha ha ha....
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
hahaha you make me smile.you know what?having dog in germany is more expensive that human!!!.yeah he is annoying but it will change sooner or later.
@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Maybe you can tell this guy nicely, that you love the visits but he has to keep them shorter because the doc wants your hubby to get more rest. long visits are hard on him even though he enjoys them. That to me sounds good and shouldn't hurt his feelings.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
Polly i dont even joing them talking and i dont like talking to him.so i will folloaw some sudgestion that if he calls we dont answer the phone or to tell him that hubby needs rest