Miscarriage ! have you ever experienced one ever?

@sunil_008 (1270)
India
February 22, 2009 6:27am CST
despite their prevalence,it is always devastating when a woman experiences a miscarriage.though in real i do not know any woman who has gone through all this.but sounds terrible to me.so what causes the miscarriages in women?and how can someone avoid this? how a woman feels after a miscarriage?
1 person likes this
5 responses
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I had miscarriage on my first pregnancy. During my first trimester I had constant spotting. Its not really safe for the baby, doctor advice me to have bed rest, which I did. on my fourth month. I don't have any spotting. I was so happy at that time. Then one day, I was giving my grandmother her medicines. I was holding her medicine on my palm, with 2 tablets, and one capsule. while giving her one medicine at a time. I don't know what came over me, I suddenly took one capsule and drank it with water. That night, I started to feel pain. I did not know there was some effect about taking a wrong medicine. The next day I feel more pain, then, there I had miscarriage, the baby went out. I feel bad, about this, because I did not tell anyone, what could have cause the miscarriage. I feel, I was to be blamed. I just said, maybe the baby want to see the world. The physical pain, I feel at the hospital are terrible. But the psychological pain i feel is much worst. I am lucky to have a very understanding husband, he is always by my side, supporting me. He loves me so much. Right now, I am pregnant again. I am more careful.
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
your comment and advice gives joy to me. I'm very lucky that you were able to read my comment. Guess what? last week I had another miscarriage. I feel so low, I feel so sad, I feel terrible. But what you just said is right. Thanks for your timely advice.
@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Hi Sunil...What an interesting question and for one which there are many answers. A woman can have a miscarriage for a wide variety of reasons. It could be genetic. It could be the embryo not implanting. An embryo cannot survive on its own as it does not have the tissues, body functions and organs to do so. So if it doesnt implant it cannot survive without something to live off of. Certain deseases can cause miscarriages as well. Diabetes and Lupus being 2 that are known to increase the risk. Also possibly smoking, certain medications and things that act as toxins in the body. I believe that women have different feelings depending on the situation. Most are devastated, but there are some who didnt plan the pregnancy accordingly in the first place and see it as a way out. Sad but true. I guess they cant be avoided, but a woman can do things to lessen the chances, such as healthy lifestyles, quit smoking, watch medications. etc. THis does not however gurantee you will not have one, its only to lessen the chances, same as anything else in life. It comes with no guarantees.
• Canada
23 Feb 09
And the answer is yes, 22 years ago!
@messageme (2821)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I have experienced two of them. Not really sure what caused them, but I always believe in everything happens for a reason. I wasn't very hurt by them, as I was quite young. And surly wasn't ready for a child.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Yes, I did back in December 2005. I wasn't very far along, but having a miscarriage hit me harder than I could have ever imagined. For the first year or so I couldn't think about it without crying. I felt sad for the baby that I had lost. I don't know about all women that have had miscarriages, but I know mine was stress related. There had been a lot of stressful things during the month that my miscarriage happened. I wouldn't doubt all of these things played a part in it.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Hi sunil! I have never had one but I can help you with understanding why it happens. If a woman is healthy and takes very good care of herself there is only one reason for the miscarriage. It is our body rejecting the child because there is something wrong. Sometimes it can not be avoided. It is a natural process of elimination. It's sad though that people have to experience it sometimes.