how did you treat your stubborn kid

Hello cindy. I think that the education to an only child is getting more difficult partly because most of us have only one child in a family. Therefore the only child is focused on by us parents, which to some extent makes the only child think that he or she is the most important one in our heart. Another part of the reason is that as we have only one child, we put all of our love to our only child and ignore quite often the wrong thing the child does. Of course, reasons for this may vary. I think that you are right that trying to teach your child in a correct and healthy way. In fact, kids' education is no easy thing and we parents have to deal with it positively and correctly. Happy parenting, cindy.

I have three children and all of them are very independent and a little stubborn - well a few more than others are very stubborn. I think this is good and bad. One, it shows a very strong personality, but on the other end, that stubbornness needs to be molded into something that will be a postive factor rather than a negative personality trait. Has your friend ever thought that the child needs more attention? Did she let her get away with a lot of things when she was younger? I've found that consistent discipline really helps. Now this doesn't mean locking the child in a room or causing physical harm in any way, this means that when a child acts up, you take consistent measures to let the child know that the behavior was not acceptable and that you don't want it to continue. You really have to balance the negative aspect of discipline with a lot of positive reinforcement. The child may feel as though negative attention is the only type of attention she can get right now. My middle child is going through that sort of thing as we speak. When a situation occurs, I always try to give that child two choices - that way the child gets the opportunity to pick the choice that he/she wants instead of the parent always telling the child what to do. I'm trying to raise my children to be able to make good decisions on their own rather than just listening and obeying my orders. What happens then if you aren't around? I want my children to be able to use their sound judgement to make good decisions wherever they are. This way they don't become followers but leaders. Just be consistent and always try to use positive reinforcement rather than negative punishment would be the best advice I could give.

To be stubborn is a good thing :D - perhaps some things are important to her and she has to show that to her mother. You doesn't say how old she is. But don't even most adults do the same wrongs over and over again some times? I try to listen to my childrens opinions - they have ther say in things that will affect them and I think it's important to be abled to speak for your sake - even if you're just a small kid. I belive that listen and really listen to children is important and explain why it can't be the way they want.