Do you quarrel with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife?

China
February 26, 2009 6:21am CST
Hi mylotters, I do not know whether you have such a period in your relationship with you love. My boyfriend and I fell in love with each other at the first sight. At first, I appreciated his every word and every action and I would like to do everything according to his idea. About one year later, I felt tired of this relationship and began quarrelling with him. I remembered we quarrelled everyday. One day, he could not tolerate my attitude and we all agreed to break up. Suddenly, I did not know why I could change my idea two days later and we were together again. Since then, I have give a lot of patience to him. When I told these things to my friends, they all said that was normal for a couple to quarrel. But I think quarrel may affect the relationship of two loved people. Did you have such a period? How could you solve it?
6 responses
@annierose (17243)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
hi wenwenwang, I agree with your friends. Quarreling in relationships is a very natural thing between two people. Somehow, I can say that quarreling once in a while can strengthen the relationship. It is because, through that, both parties will discover what is the attitude of his or her partner when the latter is in her or his upset mood. And from that, someone will be able to adjust to his or her partner's trait. And through that, the relationship will be more stronger and longer. I am in a relationship right now,and I can say that my relationship with my boyfriend is not perfect. Once in a while, we argue that leads to fight and one of us will cry. But it never comes to the point that we will agree to break. Maybe, it is somehow because my boyfriend has a big age difference with me. And perhaps, because of that, he is mature enough to handle the problems that comes along our way. I admit that sometimes I am so childish and always argue with him, and whenever that happens, he always try to understand me. He is very patient with me. I even get to the point in which I almost make him so mad but still he tries to understand me. But at the end, we turns out okay and say sorry for what had done wrong with one another. I think it is a matter of humility that needed also for a relationship to work out. It is a matter of accepting faults and trying to improve one's character for the betterment of the relationship.
• China
3 Mar 09
Yes, your opinion is quite wonderful. Your boyfriend will be a good husband for you, I think. My boyfriend and I are in the same age and we are all still childish. Sometimes, he would like to act as a adult but he could not. That was so funny. After our bad quarrels, we have more stable relationship. He is not perfect and so am I. The most important thing is I love him and he also love me. That's enough. Good luck! Wish you happy!
@annierose (17243)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Thanks also for your comment. I wish your happiness also with your bf
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
2 Mar 09
maybe most of couples ever quarrel.I knew some couples seldom quarrel.my female workmate and her husband.i asked to her for secret why they keep good relationsh so long time.she said he just always agree with my opinion.he seldom said no to me,and they respect each other too.maybe many poeple know this.but it is hard to agree with others always. i don't like to quarrel too.it really crazy to say something i didn't really want to say that way.quarrel often and hurt more.so i suggest we try to learn to be calm to solve problems.take care!
• China
3 Mar 09
Thanks for your share! I remembered when I built relationship with my boyfriend, I told him I wondered no quarrel between us in future. He promised me to comprise when we have different opinions. However, things went on out of my expectation. We quarreled a lot. That may be a little fun for our promise. Thanks again. Good luck!
• Singapore
19 Mar 09
Yes quarreling does affect relationship... I have been quarrelling wirh my bf so often and even over the slightest issues. Both of us got bit tired and cynical about us living together and if we can haev future together. I have no idea how can we quarrel so often. Probably we are 2 stubborn ppl and i blame myself for being too impatient and stubborn too. We broke off recently and it totally breaks my heart. His reason of breaking up is he cant forget his ex gf all along and he feels its unfair to me. He tried very hard but he just cant forget her. Could it be my character that he cannot stands that cause him to break up with me to go back to his ex? He has moved on yet i been thinking back and wondering what i could have done to make things right. Have i chased him away to go back to his ex?
• India
18 Mar 09
quarrel i hate that word 3 months before i quarreled with my partner now she hate my presence she did not want to see me it is the first time she quarreled with me i know its my fault but now i cant live without her and i dont know what can be done
@ktosea (2027)
• China
2 Mar 09
I guess that happens to most of the guys in their daily lives,sometimes you may in bad mood for several days and it's easy to drive them nuts,I think it's understandable...
• China
26 Feb 09
I can't recall I had quarrelled with my GF. There're lots of reasons / situations that may cause quarrel with others. It's hard to say how to solve as there may be so many reasons/ circumstance. A quarrel may be caused with some goodwill as, like the situations performed in the TV that one got a incurable disease that may pass away pretty soon while, her/his better half may be still in the dark. For the sake of not letting their other half go well, the one who is diseased may deliberately quarrel with their half with no any reason, just to let them off...It's not a very good example while what I want to say is you should deal with these things on your own as as we the by, actually cannot help more on this....