do you think its understandable?

Philippines
February 28, 2009 7:15pm CST
Here is the situation. Imagine you have just broken up with your gf/bf for a long time because you feel neglected. But you remained friends with her/him because after all you used to be very close friends that you regarded each other best friends before you became an Item. Then recently you found out that you still love your ex only to find out that your ex is in-love with someone else at work. Let us say they plan to get married, will you attend or not? I am nearing out my wits here because they are both my friends and would like them to remain as friends although they broken up. This is what's eating both of them I think. a) The girl wants the ex to accept the new bf and wanted to attend her wedding forgotting he is btw her ex. b) While the guy on the other hand could not accept this new found love because he feels the new love is the one who may have done something to ruin the relationship because he is the ex gf's supervisor. The guy became lonely in the relationship because the ex gf is always busy, and more often spoke about the supervisor rather than something else. What should I tell both of them? Is it understandable the way teh ex bf behaves?
3 responses
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
1 Mar 09
Hi, situation is really Mystic....as many ifs & buts,speculations/imaginations are crowded in the situation given. a)Yes.to attend marriage, (even the Heart bleeds)..for the sake of friendship... b)Remain as friend,well-wisher.Donot ENCROACH into personal matters,now!The girl is adult & it's her decision.Respect it(atleast for time-being...) =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
Thanks for responding. It is a bitter pill to swallow for him I guess but I do think it is the only way to move on. Thanks.
• United States
1 Mar 09
if he feels bad, then he needs to check his own relationship and make sure he is doing the right thing marring the other woman. if the girl wants to stay friends with the boy, then she needs to be happy for them and try to move on with her life. i am sure that she will find someone great. but i would make sure that the relationship is over for sure before moving on and marring someone else. you don't want this new girl to get hurt in this all
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
thank you for responding. It is the girl who moved on. The guy just felt bad and did not want to attend the wedding because he still feels for the girl.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
if that will happen to me i will not never attend to the wedding of my ex partner especially when we have a long term relationship before and have a good friendship now,espcially in the situation of your friend that she still have feelings to his ex.