love and need

@mamalev (264)
Philippines
March 1, 2009 11:14pm CST
Which do you prefer to be told "I love you because I need you" or "I need you because I love you"? I asked hubby this question and he said "What's the difference?". Guys! (sigh) What do you think about it mylotters? For me there's a big difference.
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rmorefield
@rmorefield (941)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I would rather be told "I need you because I love you." I don't think the first statement would be real love. It would be the illusion of love due to need. The second statement is how one should feel about their mate.
mamalev
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
thanks for your response. At first I looked at your display image, it couldn't have been from a guy. then I checked out your profile, it's a female weeee lol. I'm not generalizing men (sorry) but like my hubby, they don't see the big difference.
rmorefield
@rmorefield (941)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Sorry, the pic is a little misleading. It is of my honey and our daughter, Hannah.
patzel88
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
i would rather to be told "I need you because i love you". this word you can assure that he/she truly have a feelings to you and he/she wont let you go in her/his life. No benefits are being take for granted.
mamalev
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
Thanks for your response. I agree with you.
dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar 09
Yes, your hubby appears right. I feel there is not much difference in it, if the question is raised between a wife and husband. It does not matter much whether a wife would love a hubby because there is need or vice versa. Actually, in a marriage it is mutual from both the end and the practical answer to your question is we love someone because we need him/her.