what do you do when the one your love one won't help himself lose some weight

United States
March 4, 2009 2:01am CST
I have a boyfriend who i love, but i fear for his health due to him gaining more and more weight. I don't want to be mean or hurtful but he needs to lose some weight but he has to want to and has to try cause i can't change him. I am afaid for his health he has a hard time exerting himself and i think he will have a heart attack one day. what do you do in this kind of situation. i have talked to him about it and well nothing so far.
2 responses
• China
4 Mar 09
Don't worry too much dear.Until he realizes his gaining weight has become a problem he won't do anything.Just help him to find out these inconvenicences. Doing more walking when you hang out with him.Take outdoor actvities like climbing ,swimming and so on when dating with him.I hope this would help.
@Archie0 (4668)
4 Mar 09
well in such situations it is really tough to make them explain what is going on in our mind. then they might think that you are telling him because of some other reasons not just because you are concerned of his health any more.. they will always take you other ways. make him a bit concious of what he is actually, if nneded for his good you also need to hurt him, this is just for his goodness because sometimes they dont understnad till they are hurt, it is necessary sometimes.see if you can a bit harsh on him and he gets or takes those things to heart and then might start to work on his weight