Building a relationship is not easy

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
March 5, 2009 12:27pm CST
To mantain a long term and stable relationship is even difficult. How long have you been being with your spouse? How do you solve the matters with each other? Are you confident to run the rest of your life with him/her? Do you find relatinoship reliable? I know there are lots of questions above, because I was thinking about how come relatinoship si so complicated, marriage is a lifetime committment, does that mean everything will be good after getting married? Wold you like to share your views here? :-)
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@scann33 (101)
• Italy
6 Mar 09
for a long term relationship we need a lot of patience. smoothing the corners of your character and meet the other.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
@drdivu (1011)
• India
6 Mar 09
very true.. being in one and taking it long the way is the TOUGHEST task.. i myself is going thro a long distant relationship.. more so his mind is unstable and my parents are orthox and i have to save it from them too, otherwise they wil marry me off... everything at stake for me..!!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I wish you good luck! ;-)
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
6 Mar 09
In my views it is really difficult to maintain a smooth relationship with anyone. There is no fixed recepie for the same but it can be definately altered as per person to person. It is really important to be together with the feeling of togetherness, then the relation must work.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
That's very true too!
• China
6 Mar 09
yeah,I think to build a trusty relationship must take many time.first we can't trust any strange people.people trust each other by during some difficult.this relationship is trusty.prosperity makes friends,adversity tries them.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
That's very true!
@tops76 (289)
• India
6 Mar 09
Building a relationship is not easy and so is the maintaining the relationship. Relationships are of many kind, and relationship between spouse is only one of them. Yes, in any matter whatever it may be we come to solution via through discussions between us. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, based on changes from both side or I can say a little bit adjustment from both side, and we are fortunate in this area. Everything can't be good after getting married, we have to make it good. It's depends how you manage it. In brief, marriage is an commitment no doubt, bring a feeling of sharing, importance, respect, understanding etc, and it will be a happiest commitment you have ever made. Best of Luck!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for your sharings! :-)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I've known my current husband for almost 10 years. We were best friends first before we got married, so I think that really played a crutial role in the development of our relationship. I agree, all relationships be they marriages or just friendships require a tremendous amount of work. For us, we don't claim to have a perfect marriage, but do have wonderful communication. We talk to each other about everything, and we've been through quite alot. One of the life lesson's we've learned to be very true is how someone handles or behaves during a crisis or tough time tells you a great deal about their true self. It reveals who they truly are as a person. We've made an effort to always be honest with each other about how we feel about issues, etc. When we're faced with a problem we do our best to sit down together and draw up a plan. We generally make a list of pro's and con's and decide what will be the best way to approach the problem. We also become each other's reminder to always remain focused and calm during a time of issue. We all have the ego try to run away, and with my spouse we just try to gently remind the other of what is going on. We also spend a great deal of time telling each other "I love you", and we do little things to show it. We also cuddle quite a bit. The intimacy is part of what helps continue to build a strong relationship because you are vunerable in that situation. I know that my spouse and I will be together for the long haul. Not sure which one of us will go first but we'll bet together.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Mar 09
THank you very much for your opnions! It sounds like you and your husband have a very good idea of how to communicating with each other well! :-D
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@shoegal (10)
• United States
5 Mar 09
My husband and I have been together about 2 1/2 years. We meet on match.com and 5 months later we got married. Many told us it was too fast but, we didn't listen and have been very happy together. there are times when things can be stressful and things get diffcult.But,we communicate very well. And we are not afraid to tell the other if they did something that hurt us or made us upset. When we do get upset we talk about it right away with the other person and explain exaxtly how we feel and why. Because of this we very rarely have fights and the handful of times we have foguht we talk, apoligize, and move on. We both know relatioships take work to maintain it and both put in the work. I would say life after marraige is wonderfuly and I know I am blessed to have found my soulmate.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I'm so happy to hear good marriage thing :-) I wish you and him happy forever! :-D
@savypat (20247)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Everything good after marriage, Wow,who have you been talking to. You're just getting started when married. After 50 years of marriage,same husband. all I can tell you is respect, is one of the most important things. It's best if you are each others' best friend. But never take anything for granted, it can all change in an instant.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Thank you for your opinions :-)
• United States
5 Mar 09
being in a relationship, married or not is not easy. it takes work from both people. i am really fortunate to have found my spouse. we have been together about 7 years, married almost 2. i can honestly say that we are 100% committed to each other. I trust him and he trusts me. we have the kind of relationship that we can be brutally honest with each other and we never take offense in what the other says. When we met we were lucky enough that both of us were ready and secure in who we were that we needed each other for each other's company not to build ourself up or anything like that. i am confident that we will grow old together. relationships can be complicated. you can't take it for granted and you can't expect a relationship to fix what's wrong with you. you have to be mature enough to put someone else first at times. your relationship shouldn't change after getting married. it should just get stronger. people who think "oh he'll change when we get married" are crazy. it doesn't work.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Mar 09
THank you for your opinions! That's very sweet to hear about you and your husband :-D