Wife or maid? husband or bodyguard?

Naturally, it some how so here in Africa. a woman's place is known to be in the kitchen. most times they dont even beleive in sending the laddies to school. they beleive it's a waste of resources, since she's going to end up in the kitchen. All they do, is do cooking, and all other kind of house chores. that way, you can say she's being used as a maid instead of a wife. In the case of men, if a man that is not doing so well over here, get's married to a girl from a rich home, then he's in for it. they'll always call him ever now and then to find that how their daughter is doing, thereby turning him into a bodyguard. In some other cases, young boys that gets married to older laddies basically becos of her money, eventually becomes a bodyguard. It comes in different ways. But it shouldnt be so, they are supposed to be equal.

Sometime as the relationship bcomes old the spouses start taking each other for granted.I am not the sort who will take this sort of attitude coolly.I am not a difficult person to please but when I feel I am being taken for granted or being neglected the he(my husband) has had it!I stop cooking and cleaning ! Same way I do show in my own little way that I dont take hinm for granted by making the special food he likes or arranging surprises for him.

No, I don't think so. It depends oh how you carry on with your relationship. I'm not a housemaid coz I work in office too aside from housekeeping and taking care of family. I don't consider my hubby a bodyguard but instead I consider him as my life-partner and lover. It's a pity if you consider your wife as plain housemaid, too bad.

I think I probably felt that way with my first marriage, like I was nothing more than a housemaid. I don't like to be treated that way, because I am capable of so much more. I also don't like being treated as the weaker individual without a mind of my own. I have a brain and I am capable of thinking for myself.