silence or arguements???????????
By parthu28
@parthu28 (498)
India
March 6, 2009 12:58pm CST
i have started having many problems with my loved one or rather my would be...........
whenever there is a difference of opinion,i intially try n reamin silent n try to end it in a a peaceful manner but it always ends up in a bigger mess n eventually starts creating a rather cold feeling in me...........
but today i observed that for the first time maybe i spoke my heart out in front of the person n that apparently made things better.........but now i m scared that will it slowly take the shape of a snowball n hit me harder someday.........
plz suggest me the better way of resolving things among the life partners when u know that both are madly in love with each other n may be just because they are far away from each other n that the situations at both ends are not quite right at the moment.............
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4 responses
@j1106e (53)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
I hate argument, but we cant evade it in a relationship. A smooth relationship is dull sometimes, so it's ok to have a disagreement with him/her as long as you'l fix things soon or before sun set or before going to bed. Thats my rule, and my partner should know that, so we both know what to do.
Dont be afraid to voice out you opinion if you think you are correct. For that you will know the best and worst side of your partner. You cant always have the nice side of him, you have to at least know his dark side. And it's okay as long as at the end of the day you always settle things out.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
7 Mar 09
I guess neither silence nor arguements is proper when you have a real issue with your loved ones. Try speak out in an appropriate occasion when both are calm down, and are liable to have an objective outlook on the issue. Never curse or say bad words, which is difficult to make up. Reasoning is a better way.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You need to read the book Men are from mars, women are from venus. lol Women need to talk about whatever bothers them and they want to know how you feel. They are all about touchy feely, stuff.Men on the other hand just want to fix things to try to find a solution. to everything To analyze. You not aying anything when there is a disagreement will not make things better. As you said talking helped. Just try to talk about how you feel and no accusing of each other. If you two can communicate it will work out better for you.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
7 Mar 09
Communication, communication, communication. I understand that males are not as open to talking as women especially in regards to personal matters but whenever disagreements occur and they always do, in any relationship you need to both be able to express exactly how you feel.
mssnow has suggested the book by John Gray “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". It's an excellent read because it accurately explains the differences between men and women and the very different ways we perceive and solve problems. Good luck to you. 
