March 7, 2009 9:16am CST
I don't know what to do! My teenage daughter wrote a note to me about 2 weeks ago telling me she was pregnant. My heart dropped. I noticed over the past couple of months her stomach was looking big, but no way in this world did I ever think she might be pregnant, I didn't allow her to hang out with the crowd, I never even let her cross the street with a boy. I kept asking how in the world did this happen? This happened at a family picnic. I allowed her to go to the bathroom, the teenage boy met her there. Here is the shocker, she waited 8 months to tell me. She kept it hid from me that long! She was a competitive cheerleader, but she kept wearing the oversized hoodies to practice therefore being able to hide the extra pounds. I am very hurt & angry and full of mixed emotions. I feel like I will never trust her again. Please help me with any advise you may have to offer.
• United States
7 Mar 09
Hi juliehvr, I can't imagine anyone in their 8 month doing cheerleading ! How it happend is in the past. there is no use worrying over the past. What she did was make a wrong decision . What matters is how she's going to handle it . Don't be concerned with what she did or what you could have done . Try to sit down and talk to her . Remember this is your daughter . She needs help and understanding. She probably won't have help from the boy , so she really needs to have her Mom to turn to . Go with her to her doctor appointments. She is going to have a tough time ahead of her and needs you . I was the same way as your daughter , well it didnt happen at a family picnic but I was young and not married . I was affraid to tell my mother . I thought it would kill her . My mother never yelled, never put me down , she excepted it and did everything she could to help me . Thank God I had my mother back then. I hate to think what it would have been like without her . Be there for her and don't worry about what people will say , Everyone is allowed to make mistakes , what matters is how you deal with what has happend . What I would do is I would go out and buy a pair of baby booties to give her . That's what my mom did , and it's 30 years later and I still have that little pair of booties put away in a box. It meant soo much to me . She is your daughter , love her and help her .
7 Mar 09
hi dear . real tough situation . but you have got to face it now. better forget the past and look for the help your daughter needs to get it over and prepare her for the responsibilities of tomorrow and prepare yourself too for the same!! take her for checkups and she may need any medical assistance!! well you have to share the blame along with her and she is not alone to suffer!!