How do you treat your elders?

@mansha (6301)
India
March 11, 2009 4:58pm CST
In India its customery foer the son or daughter to take care of their old parents and no costs are involved. Parents look after the grand kids, but I have heard in many countriesd they pay the grand parents to baby sit for the kids. Even parents are expected to shift to old age homes to spend their rest of the life. Their are pro and cons of every situation. What do you feel is the best? I feel at times if its up to the kids they treat their parents well then its fine but old age homes also provide some kind of dignity to the life of the elderly if chosen well and if they can not be managed at home due to some severe illness.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
12 Mar 09
I didn't hear about cost involved in taking care of children. I am from India and I believe that it is my duty to take care of my parents and grand parents(though I don't have them). It would be sluggish if a kid would offer money to the Grand parents for the work they will do! They are not servents after all but they should be the king.
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• United States
12 Mar 09
I think that in the United States kids are sometimes too eager to put their parents into a nursing home . I think alot of grown kids just don't want to be bothered with their aging parents . If an aging person needs a little help Don't put them in a nursing home. Find someone who is willing to help them when they need it . Or check on assisted living or anything before planning on sending them to a nursing home . I live in The Yucatan, Mexico and here you don't see Nursing homes. Here familie take care of family. They take care of their parents like they are gold. They would never think of sending them away for someone else to take care of . We can all learn alot from the local people here .
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
12 Mar 09
That should be the way of doing things. But in ancient India, people used to choose a forest life after 50 years of age. The idea behind it was that they wanted to do some worship to God because in those 50 years they were so busy with their family and responsibility that they couldn't fulfil their duty towards God, so they used to go forest and live their rest of the life!
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@mansha (6301)
• India
12 Mar 09
I know in India we place a lot of importance on respecting our parents but not in every country it is the same but then we also have people here whop do not even bat an eyelid before turning out their parents on the street.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 09
hello there mansha. We treat our elders like the way they treated us when we were children. We do have "Home for the ages" here but its really our culture to have a close family ties. We cannot avoid the fact that our parents will get older and older as years passed by, but we should remember our roles as a daughter/son of them and we should thank them back by simple ways of showing our affection and taking care of them.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
12 Mar 09
That is very nice, resaon I asked this question was I read on some forums how its easier to let parents go to old age homes rather than taking care of them especially ones who suffer from Alziehmers or any such diseases.
• United States
11 Mar 09
Hi mansha: In the cycle of life, we as parents bring our children into the world, nurture them, provide for them, teach them, educate them and give them every opportunity to reach their full potentional. As we age, the table naturally turn. As to whether a nursing home is the right step, I think that is entirely up to the parents. If they feel their lives will be better in one, by all means. But I don't feel it is something that should be pushed on them because we, or others want it. Take care.
@mansha (6301)
• India
11 Mar 09
Yes it should be that way but what is the custom in your country, we in India do not have this system, now its gaining momentum with nuclear families increasing but its still rare to put your parents in old age homes.