If you have a big problem, who would you consult first?

@agmamayo (804)
Philippines
March 12, 2009 5:51am CST
We all have lots of problems in life. We all have the whole world to look for solutions. But in cases that you are confronted with some serious problems, whom would you look for advice, comforting hands or assistance? Will you seek help from your parents/relatives, a friend maybe, or your boyfriend/girlfriend?. Tell why you think you need to tell it to whom first before the others.
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@rashmie (948)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Mar 09
This all depends on the nature of problem. If the problem is too personal then it would not be easy to get advise from parents. I belong to an orthodox Hindu family where discussing personal problem with parents is not a part of customs. In this case the first option would definitely will be close friends. If the problem is related to my career, I would like to go to my parents and relatives. Mylot should also get a place, but I am new here and will not seek the solution of any problem, at least as of now.
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@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
I agree in that Rashmie, truly it depends on the nature of the problem itself. If you can solve it all along well and good. I was just wondering why in you can't seek help to your parents regarding personal problems. Yes, its in your tradition but can you atleast share to us what could be the reason why in orthodox Hindu family, personal problems are not entertained by your immediate family members. Thanks for your response and looking forward to your reply, and share us a broader knowledge regarding orthodox Hindu family traditions and customs.
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@rashmie (948)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Mar 09
First of all I am proud of being in an orthodox Hindu family. For a Hindu who is aware of the intricacies of his religion, the most important thing for him is to respect human being that is vasudhaiv kutumbakam - the whole world is part of our extended family. As for personal problems- we in India gives too much respect to female. Me being a female can say it that I am getting more than what I deserve. So there is always a pressure to maintain the respect and that is why it would be not possible to say something about personal problem to family and relatives.
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@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
12 Mar 09
Hello! I never discuss my problems with others except my wife because I think she is the best counsel.In the first instance I try myself to solve the problem without anybody's help.But ultimately I let her know the problem and we both try to solve the problem and in many cases we have been successful.thanx.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Hello BBsr, congratulations there, you have been successful in solving your problems with your wife, nice teamwork. i was just wondering why sometimes we don't really want to seek help when we have problems, like you said BBsr, we always try to solve them at first. What could be the reason behind it, and can you share to us what could be the signs that signal us that we can't really solve the problems on our own but we need the help of others already. Thanks and happy mylotting.
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@pickwick (858)
• India
12 Mar 09
I discuss it first with whoever is available that time.It can be my husband, mother or sister.Then there certain things which you can discuss only with spouses,for that I depend on my husband.Yet there are things which one cant discuss with spouse and for that I rely on my sister.
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@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Truly we as faced by so many different problems in life, and we can solved them in any best way we can either by ourselves or through the help of others. Pickwick, can you share to us some certain problems that you think needs advice from others. Can you share to us some tips how problems can be solved if we have one? Thanks for your response.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Honestly I generally am NOT one to seek out advice from others whether its my husband, my bf, my kids, my friends etc...I'm very much a "take care of it on my own" kind of person..
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@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Hello Raven, thanks for the response. Yes, everyone of us when confronted by some big problems we have all the time to find solutions to it. when we are able to solve them thats definitely a plus for us. However, did it ever came once in your entire life Raven that you weren't able to solve that kind of problem and you were forced to seek a lil' bit of advise. If yes, you have tried to seek help from others, what kind of problem was that and why weren't you able to solve if by your self. Can you share also tips on how to find solutions to problems that can be managed on your own. Happy mylotting.
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@jolope (988)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
i do think that the best adviser to consult is our Savior.. and He'd always give the best answer.. but sometimes, i resort to trying to figure it out by myself first..and if i exhaust all my energy, i ask my aunt..for the simple reason that she has my best interest in mind.. :) same with other family members of course.. :)
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@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Yes Jolope, God has all the answers for us, definitely he should be the first to be consulted with. I agree with you in that,anyway you said that you better try to sort it out first by yourself before trying to seek help from your relatives. What do you think could be the best advantage of trying to solve your problem first before asking help from anyone else. can you share some ideas to it. Thanks alot and waiting for your response. Happy mylotting
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• Philippines
12 Mar 09
If I have a big problem, I consult my bf first because he can understand me more than my parents will do then I will tell my sister as she is like my best friend in the family.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Well said Sophie, but why is it much better to consult first you Bf before your parents?. There is a saying that "mother knows best". What could be the reason why you opt to not consult first your parents. Thanks for the response.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Sorry but it in my case, my mother knows worst I never have a good relationship with my mother thats why.