During this resseccion .. would u marry for love or a better life..??

India
March 12, 2009 2:28pm CST
Ressecion had hit everyone..people r losing jobs..getting more indebted..n hopeless of this financial insecurity.If now ur given an option to marry n have as secure life..wat would u choose..??A better, secure life with someone settled well or b with ur love wen he/she can give u no guarantee of a better future..!!!we all know economics doesn't only affect financially but also personally.Wat will u do in such a dilemna..if u have no way out but to marry...??Ur family is insisting n u rn't sure of d future.wat will u choose..?? I know perhaps ..people don't like talking about this..but its quite an practical n common issue.so plz tell me ur opinions.
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@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Hi, sreepu Love is not something you can take for granted on difficult times. you have to sacrifice and trust each other. For me I'd choose love when I do marry even if recession is still looming over us and keeping everyone on edge. Most losing their jobs especially in US. But if you're thinking about financial matters,my question is: when you get married during this difficult time, will you not do all you can to make both of your lives better? I will still help my hubby by not giving up my job. We'd save up together. Sharing responsibilities can lighten up stress not only physically but also on your marriage. I don't care about marrying just for practical reasons if I'm not happy in my marriage and I'm longing for the person I love. That's a bit crazy, don't you think? lol I'd rather work and be happy than laze around, get bored and unhappy...lol
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• India
13 Mar 09
There's nothing odd or crazy about it..rather its quite a logical reason..n surely nothing to laugh about. i respect ur views..takcr dear..!!
• India
13 Mar 09
All my mylot frnds..thank u so much responding..im so happy to know all ur views...n also to know everybody is fighting with resseccion with all their strenght...!! its such a positive reaction.i maynot b able to comment to all of ur response..but i'l keep reading them with all enthusiasm..!!Soo keep on posting..n sharing ur views..!! :)
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
nah, I know. I'm not laughing at it just I'd rather work hard with my heart than have an unhappy easy life... money is a necessity but it is one of those temporal things you cannot take in heaven... it's being happy and fulfilled that will keep you in peace... plus I didn't grow up in a rich family but I've seen how happy my parents are and I wanted to have the same in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer... I guess I'm a romantic and a keeper... lol
• United States
13 Mar 09
I would never marry for money. Money is tangible and can be lost, but love, if it is real love, lasts. What is the use of having nice clothes, a big house, a nice car, and being unhappy with your mate? Would you want to stay for very long. Would you or him cheat? I think only bad things would happen if you marry for stability rather than love. I would rather be broke and happy with my man than rich and unhappy. Even though it takes money to survive, I am ok surviving with someone I love. It couldn't hurt to be well off, but how long could such a marriage last anyway, unless you fall in love eventually, which could happen.
@angel2009 (210)
• India
13 Mar 09
Secured life??? what does that mean.. I don't live for future, I live for "today" .. It would be ridiculous for me to leave the person I love and marry a stranger just because of the fact that the former's job is not secured and the latter's is!! I mean how mean is that? I know, practically there my be still a logic but emotionally??? I beleive "where there's a will, there's a way" and a relationship which is matured enough will definitely not be vanquished just by a recession!! And can anyone give guarantee for anything? When guarantee for a life cannot be given, how can be given for a lifetime? Money and security is certainly important but for me they will never surpass love and relationships!!
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• United States
13 Mar 09
Well I am already married and I have to say I definitely married for love. My economic situation got a lot worse after being married. My whole lifestyle actually did. I moved from my nice cushy apartment and gave up my Mustang convertible and moved from Ohio to Cairo, Egypt. I now own a 1976 VW Brasilla and live in an apartment that has a lot less amenities. Heck I just got a dryer last summer, I used to have to hang my designer jeans in the sun to dry. The adjustment is ongoing and was really hard to deal with. What has kept me going is the love for my husband and one day hoping that our financial situation together will get better.
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• Australia
13 Mar 09
I marry for better life
• India
13 Mar 09
Would u explain too..???Don't woorry...ur choices r ur own..n there is no way im going to feel negative about it....or throw up any lectures..!! Thanks for responding..!! :)
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I honestly can say that I would not marry anyone unless I loved them. I would have to have some kind of feelings for them. What if you get married for convenience, and then someone came along that you fell madly in love with? It wouldn't be fair to the person you married. It would be nice to be able to marry someone that you both love and is financially secure. At this point in my life, I do want to get married. I want to marry someone that I love, but I also want to be financially stable before I get married. I think I would be doing my spouse a great injustice if I brought so much debt into our lives. It's a tough question, but I am hoping that my financial life does get better, and then I will free to marry the person of my choosing. Sometimes the heart just does what the heart does, we don't choose who we are going to fall in love with.
• India
13 Mar 09
So true..my heartiest wishes to u.I'l pray dat u get over this situation n marry d person u love.All d best..!!
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
12 Mar 09
This economic condition won't persist forever. Sometimes, We have to face a lot of difficulties, and we always learn from it. Because of this hardship and you are willing to give up your love, and your dream. You don't understand love at all. I understood that everyone is in pursuing security in lifetime, but who gonna guarantee security forever. Be smart, make a smart choice yourself.
• India
13 Mar 09
Actually i didn't meant it for me..its for everyone.Its indeed a common situation n i have seen many in such dilemna.Its true d resseccion won't last long..But it will rob us all of precious time..n u should agree dat time n financial n security r important for making a relation successful.However, i support wat u said.. there's no guarantee in life. Thanks for responding..!! :)
@xlinzixx (511)
12 Mar 09
id marry for love definately. im actually getting married well next yea i am :). im being very careful to mak sure we only pay deposits on venues etc.. for the time being just in case the companies go bust.until then my savings account is getting bigger and bigger. happy mylotting.
• India
13 Mar 09
Wow xlinzixx..1st of all Congratulations..!!ur really doing a great n positive measure to fight dis bad times.keep it up..n all d best..!! :)
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
I would definitely marry for love. I don't think I would have a better life without love. Money is ephemeral. It can come and go, but love stays if it is true. I believe in myself and my spouse and love is a motivation to live and work harder. If I have him beside me I think I can accomplish just about everything I need. Without him, I feel that life loses its meaning and I wouldn't want to regret every moment of my life thinking about how I could have had love.
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
It's love, it's love, it's love that makes the world go round. It's love that makes the world go round. Life is not all about money. You always go to things that will make you happy, happiness not from the visible things but from what is inside.
• India
13 Mar 09
i will definitely go for love , thats keeps life gr8 :)
@Ritasmile (127)
• China
13 Mar 09
Love is important for everyone.Love is the foundation of life.I will marry for love.Best wishes to all lovers!
• India
13 Mar 09
I would marry the person whom i loved well he/she is in no guarantee of a better future at present as economy has collapsed but well i could be happy living with the person whom i loved and well if not today later on there would be better time for me and her. But instead of my love i marry a person who is n good financial position then well i would have enough of wealth with me but will not have peace of mind and also she or he will be in a dominating way as due to their financial security i am in this position. So well i would choose to marry the person i love.
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yes, but I would do it economically, meaning that I would hightail it to the nearest wedding chapel.
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i think i would have to choose both. i believe that if i would marry the man i really love, then it would be a better life. even the best life i can ever live. if you are with the person you really love then you can go through anything even if it takes you to suffering and pain. life would still be as wonderful as it can be when you were together.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I only will marry for love but I have to admit money might be an incentive providing I could keep my current b/f around. Not really, I would have to love the person I would marry and there is only one.