Share money with boyriend or not ?

China
March 13, 2009 2:29am CST
I'm a girl,now with my boyfriend together.We were classmates in the high middle school,we have graduated from the college for one year,now we are working in a same city and live together.As to the wage every month, shall we deposit the money together or separately? My bf likes to keep them together,my mother suggest me not do so.If it happens to you ,how do you do with this issue ?
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9 responses
@lexi19 (25)
• United States
18 Mar 09
A little bit of an issue would be as to how much each of you make each month. I was engaged for two years and my fiance and I finally decided to create a mutual bank account since everything we bought was "ours". Big mistake because I made 2 and half times more than him. Don't get me wrong, I'm far from selfish but when one person makes a tremendous amount more than the other, it can create feelings that wouldn't normally take place. He always felt like he couldn't support me like he wanted to as a husband and I felt like I was taking care of him as a child. If you make about the same and your separate bills (such as car payment or something that belongs to just the one person) are about even... than there really shouldn't be a problem putting your money together as long as you trust him.
@fren45 (898)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 09
you could save something together and some for yourself..unknown by your boyfriend : )
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
14 Mar 09
My fiance and I have two different bank accounts, but we share everything that we have. We spend his money on rent and the bills, and my money on food. If there is any money left we when the month is over we save the rest. Our savings is in my account, but it is our money, not mine. My ex-boyfriend and I created a mutual account, but we kept our seperate accounts as well. Every month we withdrew some money from our private accounts and deposited it in our mutual account and spent it on bills, rent, food etc. It was convient for us to have a mutual account, but we also wanted to keep our private accounts, and that is why we decided to have a combination of both things.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
i'll do it separately..it's not that i don't trust him or i have doubts but i want to have it on my own.and if he needs additional cash in the near future and we're still going on then i'm gladly share it with him. happy mylotting!
@loseli (25)
• China
13 Mar 09
I believed that before has not married,should better be retains individual right and the duty,certainly,the property should also alone take care.
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I would suggest that you have separate accounts. I would never have a joint account with anyone especially if I am not married to him yet. I think your best bet right now is to have different accounts.
@rashmie (948)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Mar 09
Well, I don't have a boyfriend yet, so my answer will be by most on imaginative level. I think it is not prudent to share account with someone with whom you have not yet boded for life. The age has changed a lot, by sharing something like this you will feel to compelled to be with him at least for some more days when it should be broken. Then there are other issues and don't forget the suggestion by your mother will always be the best since she knows you better and she does not want anything in return other than your well being.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
13 Mar 09
Even if you are married together,it is always good to have an account for your own and save your money for you.You shall lend him some money if he desperately needs it.At least you can have an account of how much you spent for him and he will not be using your money for granted.Cheers!
• Vietnam
13 Mar 09
If u believe in him than deposit together n if u dont believe in him than do not.Close ur eyes n imagine som1 if its ur bf than u deposite together.