I never lent her a money She got angry!

My opionon is that yes you should not loan money out. 99% of times that I have I never get paid back and ruins the freindship. If she is saying bad things about you now that you are not going to loan her money then she really isnt a good friend in the first place, so I would drop her as a friend.

You are better off not lending money to friends or relatives. She should be ashamed of herself for even asking and then doubly so for getting mad because you refused. I would not worry about her. If she is talking bad about you, let it go. Your true friends will know that what she says is not true. Best wishes!

some people have such tendency that if u help them then everything is ok, and if you stop giving it they will turn your enemy, they dont try to understand that others may also be having the problem as they have. So it is good that u have stopped helping , let her speak for some days and then u will be free forever. When no one will help she will realise her mistake and maybe she will feel sorry for her deeds.

I would have to think that she's not such a good friend after all and I would suspect that she no longer thinks you're a good friend to her too. This is good for you all around because you have just eliminated one potential problem in your life. i never want to borrow money and it is something that I try very hard not to do. Cheers!!

Well, in that case, all the more u should not lend her any money.. For she will not pay it back in the future, and she will come up with lotsa crap excuses to default in paying up.. ON top of that, i guess she wont be someone whom knows how to appreciate help from u.. So, it's better to spend the money on yourself rather than lending it to her.. Besides, u are quite hard up with money too, and she should understand that.. SHe's just too selfish.

I don't know the relationship that you had with your friend, is she really that close to you or not. Based on what you told us here, she got angry and spoke inappropriate words to you, then she took it so bad and worst, her real color showed up. It is how you tell her about refuting her about the money she is borrowing. Did you speak words harshly? how did you deliver these words to her, did you explain well or not, that you don't have money that is why she began to react furiously? Is there any deep rooted anger here and has something to do in the past that she might be recalling a lot to speak bad things on you?

I don't think its right to say things about you becuase you did not lend her any money. i dont think she is a good friend after all

Maybe she really, truly did need the money; that is not the issue. Emergencies happen; however, it was wrong of her to start bad-mouthing you to other people just because you could not help her out. She is not a friend. A true friend would have understood that you can not afford to help her at this time.

You have every right to decide who you should lend money to. It's your money and she is just pouting to manipulate you. This just proves that you were probably right. She would not be the right type of person to loan it to. You can see that by her behaviour.

So she wasted the friendship. With her attitude and being inconsiderate and being insensitive you already are no longer friends. I myself can not call a person like that friend. I remember my dad told his friend, he gave a birthday speech for his friend. I was still young back then but I still remember what he said. "I may not always agree with you but i love you." So maybe they have their differences but the friendship still stays the same as it is. We can not expect friends to say yes in everytime we want their help. You dont need to make a bad move for that, for a bad thing can not be solved by another bad thing. Just move on. It is up to people to think if that is true or not. They dont owe you an explanation. Move on. It was her lost not yours.

Your so called friend is a user. Better you not lend her money and she get mad, than lend her money and you not get it back and you get mad. She has now shown her true colours so reinforces your wise choice not to lend her money. Lending money to friends and relatives never works. They do not pay you back and then avoid you so you lose both money and friend. Lending money is what banks and credit cards are for. When I was in business I used to sell televisions. When somebody asked for personal credit I told them I have an agreement with the bank, they do not sell televisions and I do not lend money. I only broke my resolve a couple of times and got stung both times.

No she shouldn't be upset it's not your responsiblity to lend her money and obviously she's not a friend if she doesn't understand that you don't have the money to spare.

I think what you did is right. Its' your right to decide whether to lend her money or not. If you think she can not pay you back, then definetly you should not lend your money to her. If you do not have so much money she needed, you do not need to lend to her. When someone turns to me to borrow money, the first thing I think is whether she can give it back to me when I need it. If she can not, I will not lend the money to her. :)

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