how do you react if someone criticize you?

South Korea
March 15, 2009 7:40pm CST
when i give birth to my daughter some of my husband friends criticize her..i feel unhappy i told them because she is still a baby..of course im hurt by that comment so i refuse to meet them..last saturday it was a wedding of one of his friend too..so i need to attend and i cant avoid them there..but in my surprised they all make a nice comment to my daughter..everyone says, she so pretty,cute etc,etc...how do you feel when someone criticize you or one of your family member..
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27 responses
@pauline08 (101)
• China
18 Mar 09
Frankly, when a baby comes into the world, he won't be very nice. Generally, he is this ugly little red thing. But a baby in his mother's eyes, he is always nice. One of my colleagues ever said behind me, "Her baby is so ugly!" When I heard this, I was really very angry. So I understand your feeling. But I know my baby isn't ugly, and he is nice, just like an angle. I am proud of him.
• South Korea
18 Mar 09
my daughter - for post
hi pauline,yes new born baby got rashes,and red thing and sometimes they got scally skin,but thing turn out to okay when they grown up..i think this guys really fell guilty now .heres she is now..
• China
18 Mar 09
Your daughter is so beautiful! Cheer!
• United States
16 Mar 09
I feel bad and sometimes I get upset at them. I just feel like many people who do the criticizing just don't have anything else to do with their life. It especially kind of hurts when family criticize you. As for me I don't accept everyone's criticism if they don't have any merit. If it's my in-laws criticizing it irritates me because I feel they should mind their own business and many times their not doing any better.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
my daughter - for post
oh yes..i dont understand why people like to criticize someone that knowing that they are not that perfect..heres my daughter kate
• United States
16 Mar 09
I think she looks so cute! I love her cheeks and she just look like a very happy fun kid and that's what matters ignore all those people, because your daughter seems like a happy baby.
@lkbooi (16108)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 09
Hi marketing, to me all new born babies are extremely lovely. They look sweet and spend most of the time in sleeping. They are so tender and adorable. If I come across any this little favorite baby, surely I would like to hug it and give it a gentle kiss on the rosy cheek. I wonder how rude they are and could have the heart to criticize such a lovely little honey. Yeah, when time goes by they then finally find that the new born baby has become so beautiful and couldn’t help praising her. I think they most probably have forgotten what the negative comment that they had given before. Surely I will feel unpleasant if someone criticizes the appearance of any of my family member, especially an innocent new born baby, for the outlook of feature of a person is born naturally. Happy posting and take care.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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oh yes ikboo,i really dont understand why they said such comment..heres one of her photo for you to see
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@lkbooi (16108)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 09
Thanks for the best response awarded marketing. It seems that you are very good in doing the photo editing eh. Your little angel looks very lovely and adorable as the cover girl of a magazine. If I’m not mistaken you had taken computer course before. I remember this for I have responded to one of your discussions about the course earlier. No wonder you can manage to edit the photo so wonderful
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
I have no time with people who are fun of criticizing others. They are not worth it to spend my time. I'd rather read a book or watch tv.
• South Korea
17 Mar 09
thank you
@youless (65859)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Mar 09
Perhaps it's OK to criticize me. If it's true and I make the mistake, I will accept to it. However, I don't like to hear the criticism for my family. I think it's so bad to criticize a baby or child. In fact I become to understand that almost all babies look the same after they were born. Perhaps they don't look pretty after they were born, but they are the best for parents. It is hurtful to hear a criticism like that. And I think it's very fake to hear the praise after that later. I love China
• South Korea
17 Mar 09
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yes your right youless, i dont know what they are thinkin..anyway heres my ugly daughter as they say
• Malaysia
16 Mar 09
Criticism is a fact of life you can't escape. But you can decide to listen or not. Ignore those people who start to criticize your baby. They are bunch of senseless people who does not know how to be well mannered human. They need to learn politeness. Pay attention to people who really care.
• South Korea
17 Mar 09
my daughter - for post
if they citicize its ok..but not my kids..here she is...
@angel2009 (210)
• India
16 Mar 09
Obviously it hurts...but it will certainly depend, it is coming from whome. If it is coming from someone whome I love, respect or give prioity to, it will hurt me a lot and I will try to change the thing which the person is finger pointing. But if it is coming from someone who is least important to you and I think is jealous, I will simply ignore thinking "grapes are sour" and feel happy in my mind that atleast I have been able to make that person envy me!!
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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oh yes youre right, as a matter of fact they said i wish to have a girl too..hope they can produce a perfect girl..thanks..heres my ugly girl
@cream97 (29179)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi, marketing07! Well, I will be offended and mad. I will try to turn the other cheek and ignore them. But, if what they said is still bothering me, I will approach them face to face about it.. Or, I may write them a letter. I often give people a couple of chances before I let them know how I feel. What do your husbands friends say about your daughter when they criticize her? If they are saying good things about her, then that means those are compliments. What bad things are they saying? If your husband know that they are doing this to her, then he should be frank with his friends and let them know not to criticize his own daughter. And if they keep being mean to her, then he should discontinue all communication with them. That is how I feel about your situation. Take care!
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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thanks for your comment..they said my daughter doesnt look like my son who is a handsome and they said she look funny tssk.. tsk what a poor girl..i nearly want to cry infront of them,i told my husband but he never say any thing..but last saturday me and my husband keep looking to each other while each one of them says she is beautiful..heres my ugly daughter
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
If im in your place I would feel the same too!Its awful to hear someone criticize your own daughter. I have been criticize for almost a million times already,it really hurt me but I just kept it for myself,I even cry alone,or hidden.Its always like that,but I understand why people do that.I just try to understand them,anyways I cant make myself feel better if ever I would fight back,,hehe,lol..
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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i hope i can fight back with them,but im hoping they will realize that thank..heres my ugly daughter..
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hi Friend! For me, everybody is entitled to their own opinion. So whenever somebody critizise me, i just don't give a damn. Because if i let myself be affected by their critizism, it won't help. I'd rather do my thing and let them say anything they want. As long as i know the truth, i won't let them ruin my day. Of course sometimes i feel like reacting but i'd rather focus my effort on more important things. In my observation, once they've noticed that you can easily ignore them, they won't bother you anymore. Sometimes silence is the most effective response to people talking none-sense. Have a blessed day!:)
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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thank you my friend..i will accept if they criticize me cuz i know it..but for my innocent girl i cant believe it..thanks heres my ugly girl
@Yori88 (1469)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Criticism is giving comment or judgment. I don't like receiving criticism especially if they were told without thinking of the consequences. I only like criticism if they are for my improvement. I think people should be thinking first before they comment to others especially if there will be people who will get hurt. I know we all have the right to express our opinions but be sure to take into consideration the feeling of others. We should always think that criticism can hurt others especially if they were told in a not so good way. I think people just can't help it sometimes but they have to realize they are wrong in that.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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thanks yori..i really dont understand why such innocent baby will recieve such kind of criticizm..heres one of her photo..
@Dorrdavy (277)
• Jamaica
16 Mar 09
i must admit, it feels very terrible especially when its about someone you love but i guess what you have to do is try and ignore them, dont let it get to you. i remember some years ago someone made a bad comment about my sister and i was upset with that person like forever, but now i know how to handle it better.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
i just dont understand why they have to say that kinds of words.
16 Mar 09
First I usually feel very angry and protective of my family members when someone criticizes them. I know they're human and they have flaws, we a ll do, but that doesn't mean i won't stand up for them. so I'm usually referred to as the mother of the brood, even by my friends. But if someone criticizes me, I usually don't pay attention because I know who I am and what they say are only words. If it's a valid criticism, then i will consider it and maybe improve on that aspect. Criticism isn't always a bad thing, its a way of improving things unless its malicious. I criticize bands and movies a lot, because i expect good things from them. that has got me in trouble with my friends at some point. LOL.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
thanks for sharing
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
I fail to understand how anyone could criticize a new born baby! I grew up with excessive criticism and it affected my self esteem while growing up.Because of this when I was younger I did not handle criticism of any sort very well; it wasn't until I grew older that I learnt to differintiate between constructive criticism and disapproval. I have learned to react in a more productive way when myself or a member of my family is criticised.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
thanks for sharing
@williamjisir (22913)
• China
16 Mar 09
Hello dear marketing friend. To be honest, I don't like it when being criticized rather than being praised. I think that it is very human for us people. That is why I am not an exception. lol.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
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thanks..william but i really dont know why they criticize my daughter..
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
16 Mar 09
well, I consider the contribution in every criticism about me, no matter what the critic's aim is. Noone is perfect, and for someone who cites my weak point, I can show the his too. But I can't stand if anyone criticize my family.
• South Korea
17 Mar 09
thanks...for sharing
@whittenk (20)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I t alot of negative comments about my 6 year old daughter and truthfully, it does hurt, there will come a time i can't always be there to defend her..my husbands side of the family is not a loveing side and my side is...so my daughter wants to be friends with everywhere and she has to talk talk talk, she has a bad case of adhd...and she can be so hyper people can't handle her, so they will criticize my parenting skills and so on...and it still hurts but you know i came to the realization that who cares...its my family i should worry about and not what anyone else thinks..there is such a thing called karma...so the people that can be so rude...it will come to bite them..it always does:)
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
thanks for sharing
• United States
16 Mar 09
I used to ignore it and hope they would go away. I even made fun of myself to beat people to the punch. Now I realize that we are all God's creation and when we make fun or have nasty things to say, it is making fun of God's work. I usually will not put up with it anymore. It depends on the circumstance on how I react. I think that your speaking up made them realize that what they were doing is hurtful. They are watching what they say to honor you and your husband. Those are friends that just may be worth keeping.
• South Korea
16 Mar 09
thanks for sharing
@karmendra (1123)
• India
17 Mar 09
hi,, i suppose, criticizm is most of the time good for us.. because it makes us perfect when we want some improvement. so for as your doughter is concern, she is a baby. and when some one criticize her. don't take it in your mind. yes when some one critisize our family it feels bad, but we should don't think about that type of critisizm.. have a nice day.
• China
16 Mar 09
It is unmannerd to criticize other person's child expecially she is a litte baby,I think rarely people feel well.