Would you rather take care of your parents or take them to home for the aged?

@SimpleBB (1332)
Philippines
March 16, 2009 1:53am CST
We all do love our parents, but would it be a sin if as a sibling you would take them to home for the aged? Most of the people are having exprience the financial crisis, thus we all forced to work for profit. it's not considering them a burden but we have to be practical rather than to see them in poverty. If we have parents with us who needs to be taken care of, would it be a sin to let someone else to look after them rather than us-their own children or family? Would this be a shame as their siblings or could this just be practical?
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@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
hi there simpleBB.. about our parents, we dont take them to home for the aged, it's our culture in the Philippines that we never take our parents to home for the aged, they still living in our house, take care of their grandchildren, they find it fun and it makes them happy not feeling that they are not useless..i can feel that older ones needed to take care by their parents, it makes them happy rather than putting them to home for the aged, most of them feel depressed and alone...
• Australia
16 Mar 09
It really depends on how the person in question has aged. I know of one old lady who lives a couple of blocks from here. She's 93 years old and still lives alone. She takes herself out for walks and dresses up all the time. She's very mentally aware of everything and her memory is perfect... heck it's even better than mine most of the time. So if it were someone like her, then sure... she's not going to require a lot of care. But then you have the flip side of that. My grandmother is 92 this year, and although we really didn't want to put her in a home, we had little choice. She can't walk anymore. She can't tak herself to the bathroom or bathe herself. Some of the time she can't feed herself. Her memory is bad and her mind wanders all over the place. So taking care of her in your own home would be a full time commitment. You'd have no life apart from taking care of her. You couldn't work. You couldn't go out anywhere. You would essentially exist to take care of her. So in this instance, a nursing home was really the only choice.
@Barbietre (1442)
• United States
16 Mar 09
That would really depend on the situation. Sometimes the illness associated with aging may not be something a child ( and by that I mean someone like myself who is 60 ans has a mother who is 80) can not handle. I know so far we are in good health, but if I am older, how can I care for her if I start to have my own problems?
@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
16 Mar 09
Hi welcome abord to mylot!! Here in India we are not all that comfortable keeping our parents in the home for aged but we prefer to keep them with us. I guess we are brought up this way. I would take it as my duty to take care of my parents the way they took care of me when i was a child.