should you live with someone before getting married

United States
November 10, 2006 3:01pm CST
My friend is getting married next year but won't live with her boyfriend before that. They have been together 2 years and only see each other on weekends and it is working great, but..... what's your take.....
7 responses
catwoman1459
@catwoman1459 (2971)
• United States
10 Nov 06
well like the saying goes " you never really know someone till you live with them" If its a matter a celibacy, they can still live together. they need to know if the love is strong enough to put up with each others little annoying habits. and are they willing to over look them or will they make a big deal of them. It's funny allot of people break up over the silliest things.
newwife
@newwife (17)
• United States
11 Nov 06
but do you think that if they lived together as "roommates" they should have their own room? I have been married for 10 happy years, but sometimes, I wish I had my own room to go to.
jray721
@jray721 (1969)
• United States
10 Nov 06
absolutely !! you need to see each others 'true colors' before diving into marriage.
newwife
@newwife (17)
• United States
11 Nov 06
thats true and by true colors do you mean when they get awaken by you to wash the car not just for a little nookie!!! lol.. thanks
aimee750
@aimee750 (1116)
• United States
11 Nov 06
I lived with my husband before we got married. And I am glad we did. There is so much we learn about a person by living with them. I think anybody considering marrying a person needs to know as much as they possibly can know about the person first.
amsharma
@amsharma (1860)
• United States
11 Nov 06
I personally think its up to the individual.
UndercoverKat
@UndercoverKat (821)
• Romania
10 Nov 06
yes ...i`m going to live with my "wife" before wedding ... that`s the way I want...
newwife
@newwife (17)
• United States
11 Nov 06
that way you can know how a person is all the time instead of just when you are "happy" to see them. It's different when it becomes regular, not just occasional.
blinkyberry
@blinkyberry (223)
• United States
10 Nov 06
i think you should stay with a person first because you never no how a person is until you've stand with them and sometimes that could ruin things in the long run.
newwife
@newwife (17)
• United States
11 Nov 06
thanks for the feedback...appreciate it
Pingilein
@Pingilein (216)
• Germany
10 Nov 06
I think one should already before times have lived together over to determine whether one really fits. if one is only married, then it is too late, divorce is expensive.