Very difficult to be single?
By ataeri
@ataeri (1)
Ghana
March 22, 2009 4:48pm CST
Hmm.. so I am back to square one. After several years of being single, i broke the jinx when i found someone i really loved and she too loved me (well that's what i was made to believe). Life was really cool and i felt on top of the world. we had wonderful times together and got together at every single opportunity (i know a lot of you have been through this before). this lasted for a little over a year.
then through no fault of mine, my girlfriend called me on the phone one day and said she was no longer interested in the relationship. I met her and we had a heart to heart talk. I wanted to know if it was something i had done or had not done for her but she said i had done nothing wrong and that the problem was with her. she had just lost interest in the relationship. so we broke up.
now i am back to the single's jungle. i am here to mingle with people in the same soup as me. it's just a few months that i entered the jungle but I really think it's difficult being single. however i am afraid to get into another relationship for fear of being heart broken again. any suggestion for me. i'd really appreciate it.
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21 responses
@sonajoseph (175)
• India
23 Mar 09
hai i am sona joseph .. welcome to mylot
i am a 22 year old.
female ..
i am working as a nurse in india .
i am doying my lott in my free time .
i really enjoying mylotting ..
happy myloting .
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
23 Mar 09
my god! just enjoy it. you are soooooooooo free. you ahve no responsibilities, no problems. you can do whatever you want, go wherever you wanna go. it's a blessing. you are indeed lucky. don't look for love... it will just come on the right time.
@allenbucks (289)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
Well I will be turning 20 this coming July and I never had a girlfriend. Yes. It is sometimes difficult because there were times when you see that almost all of your batch mates in high school and college already experience having a relationship with their opposite gender.. And you sometimes feel sad because you are left alone most of the time because your close friends have already their love affair. But the happy part of it is that you are very much free to do what you want. I mean, you could date different girls everyday and not worrying that someone might be mad at you because you have no commitment to anyone.. Hehe.. And you have a lot of time for your other friends. And money is not very much of your problem.. Happy posting
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I am annoy when my friends always ask me when will I have a new boyfriend. I have not meet my partner whom I can share happy moments. I am very single and i love the free time it gives to me. I could do whatever and i want and nobody nagging me. But, when occasion are present and i see a lot of couples. I feel sad and half envious with the fact they look happy. While, I am seated with a child or an old folks and talks with relentless discussion. i can sense that you are not yet relieve of your past relationship. but, in the right times you will find the perfect person for you and you just pray for it.
@Sabrinali (16)
• China
25 Mar 09
Hi there, I had the same feeling with you one year ago. In those days, I am sad and lonely althought I am the one who suggest broken up. We are not fit each other, our characteristic is totally difficult. Until now, I am still afraid of falling into a new relationship of love. But these days, I am better. Spring is coming, I can go to many places to relax, and sometimes it is really a good chance to find my true love, maybe he is somewhere waiting for me. So my suggestion for you is that just go outside and enjoy nature, warm weather, shining sun, beautiful sight, and try to find another lover, I know it is difficult to get out of the sad, but life is long, you have to forget it and start another new life. Try this,and you will be much happier than before, and the relationship between you and her wil be much stronger. Best wishes to you. ^ ^
@lonelyvamp5 (18)
• United States
25 Mar 09
i know what you mean it happened to me a couple of months ago also my gf told me that it had to end because she was confused about our relationship it broke my heart because she was my life metaphorically speaking i would spend my days with her and if i wasnt with her i wold be talking with her on the phone for hours even at night i would borrow her cell so we would talk even at night and she just ended it like that and i ended up alone all over again and just like that my heart broke the one that she had worked so hard to put back together was shattered all over again.
@chemcdow (149)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Right now I am in a relationship, but eve n when I am not, I do not think it is very difficult. When single, you get more freedom, haha! Also, if you do not want to get into another relationship, then don't! That is perfectly okay, also. Some people need to be single for awhile after a bad breakup, and eventually you will feel comfortable enough to just start a relationship naturally. The easiest way to go about this is to just not think about it! Things will work out in the end!!
@krupesh (2608)
• India
23 Mar 09
I am very much sorry to hear that.Losing a loved one really makes us to go mad.Better not to think of it much & indulge youself in different activities where you find fun & get distracted by the relatinship.
dont worry you can still go for a new relationship as all girls are not like that.
@roxa19 (115)
• Romania
23 Mar 09
sorry to hear about your break up. don't worry, we all passed through at least one breakup. myself i had been in a relationship for four years, had marriage planns and suddenly he broke up with me. it was a shock for me. but, let me tell you the truth time heals everything. single is not too bad, in time you will find you soul mate.
@azertacxw (142)
• Morocco
24 Mar 09
i think to be single is not difficult what is difficult is to be alone.to be single doesnt mean to be alone
@melissa15678 (13)
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23 Mar 09
Just enjoy being single for now. I'm currently single. I've had a few relationshops, some longer than others but from these I've learnt that I need to take my time with finding someone. They never seem to work out so for now I'm happy concentrating on my degree and having fun with friends and family.
@edpan795093 (12)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
We know that all of us are leaving in this world not perfect
sometimes happened in our life that the most important thing
is gone, but don't bothered just continue what do you have you need
to accept everything and try to recover and start your life again don't
lost your way just stay focus that our life is change. We don't
know what today and tomorrow don't afraid to get another relationship
because of happening to your life, maybe it is difficult but when times
come god never forget to us to have more blessing. Dont' be afraid..
@writerscorned (31)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I hate being single but I kind of laugh bitterly when people ask me "is it easy for you to be single all the time?" Because no, it's not easy to be single I just don't really have another option right now. If I did, and the option was good, I wouldn't do this. Then again I felt like I constantly had to watch and censor and monitor everything I did for my overly optimistic ex-girlfriend and that was kind of unpleasant so it's nice not to owe someone something better than who I am.
@vulpisian (20)
• United States
25 Mar 09
well, im 20 years old, and i've never been in a relationship for more than 3 months. things were going good untill she left me for an older dude, which sucked and broke my heart, but you know what i did? i relocated! and i changed careers. as of yet, im still single, but i've only been at my new plave for a little over a month and a half. sometimes, you just have to change your angle and see what works and what does not. go from long hair to short, or short to long, or from pizza delivery to mechanic, or vice versa. the main point im getting at here is to just go out and live. keep hoping for the best, but always have a backup plan
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
hi there ataeri.. i'm single too.. single mom with a 4yr old daughter.. me and my former boyfriend broke up last january, but i'm happy with my decision because he always makes me fool, he makes things that always hurt my feelings and it's enough for me..it's not difficult to become single friend it's because you are free from expectations, no hurt feelings.. just hope and pray that one day you will find the right girl for you..of course, you can find one, maybe your former girlfriend is really meant for you.. goodluck and happy mylotting..
@Nisha_Verghese (551)
• India
23 Mar 09
Firstly, i am very sorry to hear about your relationship failing.. But you know, that is how life is... you win some; you lose some.. We are not going to get everything we want in life.. Be glad, that your Ex-Gf realised she isnt interested in the relationship before you both got married.. in this way, the heartbreak is less painful..
I understand that you feel it painful to enter into a new relationship again... i am facing the same problem in my life as well.. anyways... Dont despair.. dont rush into any relationship... just wait... your princess is out there somewhere... when the time is right, you would meet her...
Till then, enjoy your life.. Dont waste it away for someone who didnt want to share it with you...
@jiacky (191)
• China
23 Mar 09
I am single and want to find a girlfriend ! but I don't think it is difficult ,but very happy .I want to find girlfriend because I want to taste of another life!
good luck to you !
@JayTheJedi (13)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I think it is hard to be single especially after you are heart broken and you have been through some relationship problems. But i think it is even harder to stay with just one girl for most men. I think you should just try to stay single until you feel like you can handle another relationship, and when you do start dating try to stay with one woman. It isnt easy I should know. (taken for 3 years)
