Money and Marrige

China
March 22, 2009 11:56pm CST
What is the basis of a truly happy marriage ?Romancy ?Communication?True love ?It ceertainly is not money ,right ? Most people would agree that money is not what makes a good marriage but ,according to the marriage counsellors ,it is certainly abig one factor in making a bad one . The British relationship counselling service found ,in a survey ,tht money was the number one cause of arguments amongst coup;es in the UK .US counselors agree that money is one of the major factors in many sivorces .And it is not just lack of money that cause problems .SO tell me waht your attitude to money ?Do you think the money is the basis of a happy marriage ?Is necessary for us to talk about the way we manage our finance before we tend to marry?
6 responses
@fan2009 (122)
• China
27 Mar 09
Happy marriage should be based on faith not money.No matter how poor you are,if we share the same feelings,we will be happy together.Even if you are very rich,you looks down at me,i will not be happy. money can support happy marriage.we need things in life.but money can't be everything.in many cases,how to deal with money is the problem.many broken marriage was the result of arguing about money.sharing the same idea about money is ok
@fan2009 (122)
• China
27 Mar 09
happy, what is happy? money doesn't mean happy.poor people are living happily.there was nothing to worry about.sometimes rich people are not so happy because they have a lot to do.best living conditions are good but don't mean happiness
@oyenkai (4399)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I think that managing finances doesn't necessarily have to be discussed before marriage - it's all about having a good relationship. If the both of you have the same principles and are mainly concerned of the same thing that your spendings would reflect that. You'd have to continuously talk about where your income would go because the needs and the wants change often. It doesn't have to be a tedious task for both the husband and the wife, it's just another thing to discuss - like who'd watch the baby tonight or who'd cook dinner? :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
• India
29 Mar 09
money need to live and marriage needs love between too. If you are having lot of money and no love with your partner you cant live happy without love and with money.
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
27 Mar 09
Hey, In my opinion money helps to keep a marriage together. I think the main reason is that money makes everyone's life a whole lot easier. Also I reckon that most women like to have a man that is financially stable, not a poor person who can barely afford to pay the bills. Most women from my point of view want at least a nice house and maybe a nice car too. They don't want to live the rest of their lives in stress to pay their bills. If they were to have kids, they want to provide their kids with a good education, to know what is right and what's wrong. I can even see with my parents right now, every single argument they have is because of money. Mainly that we don't have enough money to pay for the bills. So certainly money shouldn't be the goal here, but for a marriage to last, you should try and earn a reasonably good income.
@markas (22)
• Zambia
23 Mar 09
Hi lvjunjie, its seemms to me that indeed money is at the cetre of many marriages globally which is sad because people no longer marry for love but as a way to in-rich themselves as a result when the money runs out so does the marriage.
• United States
23 Mar 09
It's a connection and an understanding. But I would be lying if I told you I didn't think money sure helps.