Should You Tell your Girlfriend/Boyfriend What to Wear?

@inkyuboz (1294)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
March 23, 2009 9:42am CST
I think some people can be controlling sometimes, even down to the choice of clothing! I think as long as what he/she is wearing doesn't attract unneeded/unwanted attention from others and it's generally decent, then it doesn't really matter! I hate it when there are people who would complain about what his/her significant other's taste in wardrobe is. So, answer the question: Should you tell your GF/BF what to wear? Why or why not?
18 responses
• United States
23 Mar 09
I dont think anyone should tell anyone how to dress. The way people dresses describes them. it is who they are. why would someone want to change that or them. if you want to change you bf/gf, then maybe they arent the one you should be with.
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@inkyuboz (1294)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
23 Mar 09
If what you're wearing becomes a root of every argument, then you have a point. I guess, some people don't want "fashion critics" for partners. LOL
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I wouldn't necessarily tell my husband what to wear but I would tell him that certain pieces of clothing look better than others. I think everyone wants to dress comfortably while looking their best. And if you love this person you would tell them what looks the best as long as they are comfortable.
@inkyuboz (1294)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
23 Mar 09
I like your answer! Indeed, sometimes you just want the best for your loved one. I agree.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hello inkyuboz! If I found my husband wearing weird that could attract other people, I would probably tell him what to wear. But luckily, my husband has a good taste in terms of dressing up. But I do tell my husband to shave everytime and I always tell him that he looks good when he shave.
• China
24 Mar 09
I won't tell my boyfriend what to wear.But sometimes I can give him a little bit of my advise.Because I believe every person has its own taste.Now that I love him ,I will also love his clothes ,and other things.I should respect his choice .Even though he really love me ,I don't hope that he forces himself to adapt himself to a style he deosn't like.I love the person ,instead of his clothes.
• Sweden
24 Mar 09
Advice and such is ok. But telling them what to wear isn't really good if they didn't ask you to dress them. I know I'd feel rather silly if I were told what to wear, and later on I'd just get sick of it. So if it's just opinions you're giving every now and then it's all good, otherwise it's just controlling and weird.
• Malaysia
24 Mar 09
i dont think anyone should tell anyone else what to wear or what not to wear, regardless whether it's your boyfriend or girlfriend. unless your opinion is sought then you shouldn't really say anything. we should just let others wear whatever they're comfortable with, who are we to tell them what to wear? just gotta live with it..some people dress well, some just don't so unless the outfit doesnt cause trouble then it should be fine.
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
No, i'm not a controlling type of person who's going to tell her partner, you should do that, you shouldn't do that, you should wear that, you shouldn't wear that! yay! yes, i do suggest him what fits him well but he's still has the last say.. i'm just here to help him out whenever he wants to ask for my opinion or whatever.. =) in fact, i've been my hubby's fashion consultant for years.. he always asks me what to wear on that day, etc..
@Archie0 (4674)
24 Mar 09
I think this is a very independent thing where one should not get in between,sometimes we are not suppose to take over anything or anyone which becomes quite tough next time to handle.our partner needs freedom but love.they dont need a ruler in life they need a lifepartner a soulmate what we call. spending life with a husband or wife/girlfriend or boyfriend doesnt mean they have rented a slave for themselves, it is just a pure relation where no force is required.
@xbrendax (2668)
• United States
24 Mar 09
No! I think people should just leave people alone unless what they wear will cause trouble with others, draw the police or be too too sexy!
@ShellyB (5247)
• United States
24 Mar 09
The answer is no, either I like my bf or I don't, telling how to dress is a waste of my energy and will develop into an argument that is not really pleasant.
• China
24 Mar 09
There're some people who definitely want to control others or dominate everything. I think everybody has his/her own right to choose what to do or what not to do. But in a family life, it maybe good for your partner to make some suggestions on your clothings, it's some kind of love maybe. Anyway, to control others is not a good idea, the two need more communication. I will not tell my GF what to wear, but I will give some suggstions on what's pretty in my eyes...
@NancyXie (78)
• China
24 Mar 09
I would not like people who's cloth style I don't like...If he is my boyfriend,I must like his wearing..
@shay3434 (882)
• Israel
24 Mar 09
I don't think that a boyfriend ahould tell his girlfriend what to wear, and also a girlfriend shouldn't tell ther boyfriend what to wear. Every body should choose his own clothes, so he or she feels good in it. Clothes is something that feets for the person who wears them and not to others. Maybe a couple can consult with each other about colthes but I don't think it's clever to force people to wear something they do not like. Good day everybody.
@emma1987 (107)
• China
24 Mar 09
Of course sure.Because it can help your girl or boyfriend to wear more tastly. By the way,we can sugustion he or she what to wear but must ..
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
i do tell my partner what to wear only on several important occasions. besides i do not tell him exactly what to wear. just a piece of advice on what type of attire would fit the occasion. still its his choice of color and style. besides for me its just a reminder so that he won't forget and that he won't be different from the others when we get to the place. aside from that of course i want him to look as the most handsome lad during the gathering. on other events, i don't mind what he wear as long as it fits the weather and type of place.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 09
I care about my partner, care about what outfit she is wearing, but it doesn't mean controlling her mood or her taste, only sometimes when she was not very careful to choose what to wear, may be a little gentle suggestion in term of " not hurting her feeling ". It would be great to know that your beloved one care about you ( not only fashion ) in a positive way. Cheers.
@blion23 (404)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I agree with you one hundred percent, as long as they are not wearing anything that attracts lots of attention, it doesn't matter. I think it might be something that you may need to work out with your girlfriend of boyfriend but I don't think that it is a big issue. Sometimes, I will ask my wife what looks better to wear for a job interview or something of that nature but I don't think that you should be bossed around and treated like a manikin.
@Jezebella (1448)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I dont think you should ever tell your spouse what he or she should wear unless you are going to a fancy place then tell them it's fancy. I think telling your gf/bf what to wear breaches that boundry of trust into being controlling.