should I divorce him?

If you want to protect your young children or your marrige,or something else,first,you must talk to your husband and make sure whether he still has the love to you and the responsibility to your family.If he do,help him and prepare for the following hard time.You may go through a lot of imaginable difficuties but you must insist on.You must have the hope that things will be better.This maybe the best end. But if your husband doesn't have the responsibility,choose to divorce and still prepare for the following hard time. Hence,I think the first and most important thing to do is to have a talk with your husband and then decise whether to divorce.Make sure what's your own mind without the rumers around you,just consider the future of yourselves and your lovely children. Have a specific schedual of the future,including how to deal with the relations around you and how to make money to keep life of you and your children. You can image the following things as much as you can and find out the resolution.It's a hardish reality but the necessary for you to consider. Good luck and bless you !

I think you should divorce him, it is affecting your mind and heart when you are the innocent victim here.Why are you suffering and be with him even after so many things? You can think better after divorcing him, it is affecting your children a lot and their future ofcourse dont let your time in thinking a lot.your decision will be right

H[i]i qi, that is very tough. Talk to him and try to convince him to take care of his health for you and your baby's sake and if he will not show any effort to help himself, then I guess, there is no reason to be staying with him. I know marriage is not just for good times but also for bad times but both party should work on it! Good luck![/i]

I want say something on the foot of your children.Please do not choose to divorce with your husband.I am a girl that who has no father for 18 years.My father and mother divorce when i was 1 years old,since then i grow up with no father.You know ,the growing process is very difficult.My mom really hate my father and she donot want to see him again.But as a child,i need my father to love me .I want to get the love from my father.If you can deal with the issue correctly,please do not choose to divorce.

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do you talk to him?I think you should talk to him and find the way out of trouble,you have a lovly child,and he or she must have a father,so don't give him up,there must be some way to handle it

hello!don't worry so much.u can ask some experts for help.maybe u will find the better answer.

I think it is very sad situation. Think of other alternatives.Also in future try to look at the things from other angle and be careful.

I feel so sorry about your husband :-( Have you ever talked to him about this issue that has been bothering you? I don't think you could just walk away when he is suffering with debts and illness. I hope you can open it up and talk to him, find a way to figure out the problem so it won't lead to divorce. I hope for the best for you.

wow. you already had 2 marriages and you are entertaining of another divorce. if you decide to do so, i just hope when you find a new one (again), try to be more smarter this time. i mean, don't just fall right away. you probably would be able to learn from your past relationships by not jumping on the bandwagon without knowing the pros and cons you will be getting in.. I thought marriage is about marrying the person bec. of what and who he is that includes the negative side of that person and not of what you expect that person you want to be.

Maybe I would tell you not to end your marriage such fast at four years,there are many chance and ways to rebuild your whole family.

I would say that wait for some more time because this is the person you love truely and true love doesnt comevery easily.So give him some more time.Always Remember GOD is very kind...Wishing you luck....bye

I am sorry to hear that. I know some people have a unfortunate marriage, but divouce is the final choice I think. Finding a fitting time, you should try to talk with your husband first and even write a agreement. Or let his parents to persuade him. If he become more and more better, I think all of thing can be solved. If not, you really can bring a divorce and to pursue your good life.

ya, its the right way to give divorce because we may die after the money has been over so its the right way to take divorce and start a new life and be happy with your children.

You have a small child to think about and not just yourself. It is not good to raise a child in those kind of conditions. Children will not understand this. Your husband obviously does not care about his life if he just keeps doing the same things over and over again and not thinking about the way it is affecting you and your child. You should get out of the relationship as fast as you can. I say run like the wind and dont look back. Your husband sounds like a very irresponsible man. And I dont care if you have been married 6 times . Dont worry about people joking about you. Worry about your child and yourself. Your husband isnt.

It only goes to show that it's not easy to look for the perfect man of our lives. Well, of course if I were in your shoes, I would seriously think about divorcing him (of course, it's not allowed in our country)...but I guess in your case, it's a legal process, so after a thorough soul searching, and if you think you would be better off to be divorced than to stick it out with him, then I guess you just have to go for it, lest you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your husband is stubborn; if he can't at least take care of himself for you , then there's no reason to stick it out with him, when he can't even take care of himself or that he is incapable of making sound decisions for himself. You need counseling on this, so I recommend that you seek marriage counseling so that whenever you make that ultimate decision, you are well grounded and is totally aware of your own feelings and decision would be wiser. Good luck.

i feel that you will be better off without him. even though he is a guy, he isn't thinking bout his family before he act. i don't think he know who is suffering bcos of what he is doing. and i am pretty sure that he does not have a job that's why he is having alot of debts. leave him survive on your own with ur children. though you will spend less time with your children this way as you have to be the sole breadwinner in the family of single parent but i believe your children will understand. and their thinking will be more mature than other children as they grow older.

Hi my friend! I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems right now. Maybe you should ask yourself if you really want a divorce. I suggest that you pray first before deciding into something. If you really love the guy then I guess love should weather all the storms that will come your way. Good luck to you..

Hi, Qiweihong. I'm sorry to hear that. I know how much hardship you are facing right now. I may not in your shoes butI can feel the trouble in your mind and thinking that your child is still small. Please remember that God will not give us those kind of trial if we do not know how to handle them. HE believes in you and HE knows that you can surpass all those trials HE have given you. HE gave you the most important thing in life, and that is "love". I believe in you. God bless.

I am sorry to hear that ,I have not been marriage or been a mother before,but here your unfortunary situation ,I think you should dicorce with your husband,if you dont love him deeply. You have a child you must consider about it more. If you could earning money for living ,you could take your child left your husband.