How will you show your anger to your partner?

@srganesh (6340)
India
March 29, 2009 6:18am CST
Well,we get angry with our partners more often.What is the way you use to show it to him/her?Shouting,letting all your anger in words tending to hurt as you are,or just remain without words giving a cold looking stern face?How will be your partners reaction if you expressed your anger in either way?Please share it here!
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15 responses
@intari (190)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 09
i show my angry with silent. i just keep silence with my partner.my partner maybe will be laughing me behind.but i never thinking of that cos it's useless. but my anger with my partner not very long.we still be friends cos we realize that we as partner.it wasn't good to break with our partner
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
3 Apr 09
Yes!Remembering the friendship within us will smooth down all the effects of anger.It is a good thought to realize our relationship under any circumstances.Cheers!
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@neha2k94u (406)
• India
29 Mar 09
I do, but not always, if I get very angry, then I wont let go things... Then I burst out with many bad things until he says sorry sorry sorry sorry, and then everything is just fine...
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
So,you use that single event to resolve whatever bad things you had counted earlier and this is a good chance to accuse him for all the worst things happened.And you won't give up until he surrender with so many sorry.What if he starts arguing and accusing about the faults on your side?
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
no.. i would usually be silent if i am feeling sad or angry or in the mood to fight with my partner... i am not the kind of person who lets out anger so easily.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
chiyosan!Most people reacts in this way to show their anger.They are not ready for direct attack but wants to give time to think over.A silence is good for the time being so that both of them can analyze their sides and get ready for a settlement.Cheers!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
valentinesdiner!That is a good point you have given.We have to find ways to resolve our anger and that too within the day.Otherwise it will lead to irrepairable damages to the relationship.The couple should end the cold war before bed time at the least.Cheers!
• United States
29 Mar 09
I appreciate the point you are making. Sometimes it is hard to express anger because it is not your style or worse, you are afraid of the consequences of showing your anger (will he lash out or just walk away?) A sensitive partner will know you are angry through your non-verbal actions - - mine sees how I purse my lips or look downward - - but you really need to resolve anger or it will act like rust on metal and keep eating away from under the surface. One thing I have learned to do is to resolve anger before the day is over - - to not let anger stay there before time for sleep. I wish you the best...
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• United States
22 Apr 09
I don't have a staedy . The way I would show my anger is by not speaking. What would be the use? If whatever happened really was bad, he would come home and find me gone.Why argue? I think he is wrong and he thinks I am wrong .It's over.
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• United States
22 Jun 09
It all depends on what happened. If he hit me, I'm gone. If it was something less than that, I just wouldn't be home when he was. i have a bad temper and it would be better and healthier for him if I weren't home when he was there. After cooling down, maybe we could talk.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
23 Jun 09
I am sorry,I thought you would just abruptly leave your house and from his life for silly fights too.Now it is clear that you don't want to worsen the scene and so you take leave for the time being and once when you regain your softness,you will settle down.Thank god.But I can see the threatening to leave if he hits you.Let us hope that will not happen ever.Cheers!
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
That is too much to get out of the house.One should not lose his temper to make situations worsen than ever.Anything,you can speak out and settle within you.I think it dramatic to get out from the scene.Please don't take such decisions in the future.
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@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
between the two of us, my boyfriend has the tendency to shout at me when i made him angry.. if its me thats angry, i just stare at him with blank face and start not to talk. when he saw in that mood, we start to say sorry even though he has no idea what on earth i was mad about. hehehe i used this method often when i want him to stop from playing videogames while im around. hehehe im also glad that both of us dont hit each other(rihanna-chris brown hehehe)when arguing. when were both i let him finish shouting out everything inside him.. and then he let me finish crying out all my hatred while consoling me and saying sorry to me.. (i find it sweet.. hehehe) happy mylotting!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
3 Apr 09
It seems that the ladies play it with clod and stern face,developing their anger to a point where it can burst out heavily.Here in most of the responses,ladies report playing that way more.Does it have some unique feature for ladies to behave that way?Cheers!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
So,that is the best trick ladies have to outwit their men for ages.And we poor men fall in prey for the trick.LOL!But I should appreciate the grils reaction after the plead.They shower more love than ever.That is what we need.In fact,sometimes,we irritate you to anger for the things to follow.Cheers!
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
guys dont like to see a girl like being sad/angry so they give way and apoliogize.. we know the ways to make guys plead to us and follow anything we want them to do. LOL
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
lol.....is this war??lolzzzzzz... anyways,hmmmm...if i get really really mad..and i cant stand what his doing.. i do shout at him and do the slam door thing..hahah! but if its just an ordinary mad or just irritated..or if he has a sin to me..lol! i just remain my silence forever!until he break!his ear drum ..hahah! and dont mind him at all acting like his not there..lol!heheheh! and if im really really really mad..heheh!ill just go to the mall and shop all day!lol! funny me..but we always end up making love after fighting heheh! we just love each other so much.. and i believe in marriage life love must stay forever behind all the obstacles in life.. this is just all a test from God.. we want to hold on in our relationship..till our last breathe, we remain as one.. so we both stay strong and happy in the eyes of God... thanks! take care!
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
24 Jan 10
LOL!That is parallel thinking to go on shopping in the mall and make him pay for it.He will not encourage buying those things at other times.To pacify you,he has to give in now.Wonderful idea.And about the love after the fighting,yes,it is more intense than before.We all should have some fighting at frequent intervals only to discover more love.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
25 Jan 10
I don't spend much time in shopping.I think it is girl's personal interest to start with window shopping and in due time possessed to shop something actually.For me,I go for shops only when I plan something to buy.Well,what you say is right.Why waste time and energy arguing or making plans to revenge.There are good other ways to soothe our emotions.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
yeah..true... i dont want to worsen our fight.. what do you think??? others say that doing the wrong thing makes a good result in the relationship?? just for example.. you and your husband had a fight because he has been cheating on you and even though you already caught him in the act still he is denying it.. and you decided to make you husband suspect you that your doing something wrong.. like seeing someone else...just to make him jealous or realized its a big regret for him that he made his mistake in cheating .. do you think this is true or right??lol!that the result would be good for letting your partner just realize for his mistake?? thanks! waiting for you response..
@myahw20 (1115)
• Canada
30 Mar 09
Sometimes, I tend to be sarcastic when I feel mad with my boyfriend and he is somehow the same. There are times that I just do not want to talk when I am angry while he is the opposite. When there is something wrong he likes confrontation so sometimes we clash more because of this but in the end compromise makes it better.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
You both are made for each other.One wants to remain cold and the other wants to be talkative as a reaction to the same situation.Well,opposite poles attract each other.It is glad,even after so many clashes you find a way to compromise things.it is the basic step to continue a peaceful life.Cheers!
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
i got a worst one, nagging him most of the time. or sometimes, just giving him a cold look or silent treatment, but after that, eventually i will nag him. :) either way, i always ended up nagging. :)
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
You have two weapons!nagging and cold treatment.Using either of them at the appropriate time.So,which one gives quick result for you?What will you do,if he don't like to surrender quickly(may be the fault is on your side)?
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
30 Mar 09
Shouting will do better because if you dont' speak your anger out then things can go weird as it happened in "My wife's murder"! You don't wana end up beating your partner. You know when you don't speak out then things would be inside you and one day the volcano will burst and thing could go very wrong that time.!
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes!There is nothing to keep up the anger and building rage inside as it would result in mental tensions and worries.We have to show it off or shout at and put an end as soon as possible.As one of the members have said,we should resolve it before bed time at the least.Cheers!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Hello srganesh! When I am angry with my husband, I am usually quiet. If he question me, I usually answer him one question, one answer and I don't look at him. It's like what you said, remain without words and giving him a cold looking stern face.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Not behaving normal and speaking only few words will surely indicate your anger.He will understand it and tries to soothe you,if he has love and affection for you.But remaining silent is not needed.Just express it with cold words and he will understand it.Cheers!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Jun 09
I will show it by not talking to him for sometime. I can't be silent for a long time. He will find out that there is some problem with me from my face and will ask to share it with him. We will discuss it together, forgive and forget, and finally leave it forever.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
oh!that is nice.He is so understanding about you and he is ready to take quick actions to pacify you.Well,how will he show his anger to you?Or haven't you faced a situation like that as you are newly married?
@srganesh (6340)
• India
23 Jun 09
Oh!He is so soft that he can't find new words to yell at you.Then it shows he is soft by nature and he was brought up like that.You have to thank your in laws for that.It is nice to hear you speak out and ended up well.Cheers!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Jun 09
He is very understanding and open minded and gets angry very rarely. He was angry with me only once in the last 5 months (since we got married. I deserved that. When he got angry, he yelled at me. I didn't respond to that. So, he yelled the same exact words again because he haven't had anything new to tell. Lol. Later, we talked about that and left it.
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@ank_47 (1959)
• India
29 Mar 09
when i am angry, i will keep quiet and don't talk to him for one day. because of keeping quiet,i will be in too tensed mood and gets angry on all people . i know too much anger is not good to health,but i can't control my anger on him.after one day i can cool and talk to him or he only will talk to me.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
3 Apr 09
It will be making the situation worse as you show anger to everybody.Better shout at him so that he will learn what are you about and that would end all misunderstandings quickly.Cheers!
@bubbletush (1332)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
when I am angry, I am just silent. I do not talk, I do not look his way. And I act as if he does not exist.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Again another girl with a silent weapon.What if he too takes the same weapon and remains as if nothing has happened and ignores you?How long can you stand him that way?Will you look for other ways to intensify the fight?What will it be?
• India
29 Mar 09
Hi ganesh, I strongly believe that we are all shows our anger with loved ones and who we likes. But always showing our angry on our partners that makes irritable and some chances they mistaken us. One thing i can say who gets the understandable, loving & caring person as a partner. They can see the heaven in earth.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes!Loving caring,understanding partner brings heaven into home.But things are not like that for everyone.We are mere humans and we err in times.And we have to react to show our dissatisfaction.Anger is one means and we can't ignore it.The way we express differs but we all must learn how to handle it.Cheers!
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
when im angry to my partner.. i dont say a word! silent treatment! cold war!! i act as if he dont exist! and it work all the time! ater few hours he'll say sorry!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Cold war!Silent treatment!Ah!these are the ways women use age long to deal their husbands and it works too.Seeing a talkative wife remaining silent is not tolerable at all.It is always mysterious to leave her like that.So,we give up(even if we are right) and surrender.Cheers!