Whats the deal? All responses are much appreciated!

@tosha86 (133)
United States
March 30, 2009 2:35am CST
Have you ever had people hurt your feelings by calling you a lier about your size vs due date? Telling you that your belly looks 5 months, not 3. I am a small person but have gotten a big belly with this pregnancy. I will be 13 weeks 3 days on thursday. That is also my next appointment. But I have gotten where I don't want to see anyone because everytime they ask how far along I am and I tell them we have a 10 minute conversation with them rubbing my belly saying there is no way. Even when I went for my last doc appointment the ladies working the appointment desk were askin... So, are we going to find out what you are having today? One asked if I found out yet. My family can't believe it because I have even lost weight and I look tiny now compared to my belly. I am getting my feelings hurt because they have me dwelling on it and I don't understand it myself. My belly wasn't big before I got pregnant so its not that and its not just a bump its a well formed, hard, pregnant belly. The only reason I don't look 7 months is because it don't stick out as far as a basketball would. Its just a perfect ball starting at the middle of my ribs to my pelvic area but not as out there as a basketball. I hope im painting a pic cuz I want you to understand. lol. Why is this? What could it be? Does this make sense to any of you? Can anyone help me to just find a cause for this? A lot of my close family says im having twins because it runs on my mom and dads side and my husbands mom is a twin but others say no because they would have seen it in ultrasound. I just feel like im being the center of attention in a way I don't want to be. Is there any thoughts on that part? I would like honest opinions and or experiences please don't just tell me to talk to my doc thursday because im going to do that too. lol. I just want to hear from people, people too, not just doctors that can miss things and tell me it is or isn't something just for me to find out different later. I want to weigh my options I guess, see what the possibilities and or probabilities are. Thank you all so much. I hope im not alone in this experience.
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
30 Mar 09
First of all you are NOT alone. I was 85 lbs before I got pregnant with my first child and I gained a lot of BELLY very quickly. People were astounded that I was not further along. The father's mother accused me of lying about him being the father because I had to be further along. I just laughed at all of them. I knew and to me that was what was important. I also knew that my baby was healthy and that was all that mattered. I ate what I pleased and didn't worry about the gain because when the baby arrived I knew most of it would leave quickly. Who cares what they think or say? Enjoy your bonding time with that wonderful child growing inside of you. He/She is what is important as well as your own health. Don't let them stress you because it's not good for you or the baby. If it really still bothers you just tell them to stuff it and blame it on the hormones lol. The reason you look bigger than most women at your stage is because you were smaller to begin with. It's really quite normal. Find out from the doctor if both you and the baby are healthy and if yes then stop worrying about what others say. Other people often think they know more than they really do. They like to sound smart or make themselves feel better by giving unwanted advice or opinions. Believe me if you saw my before prego photos, during photos, and after photos, you'd stop worrying. By the way, the day after I had him I dropped back down to 95 pounds. And within weeks I was back to 90lbs. So if you are worried about retaining the weight, don't worry so much. I sounds to me like you are mostly baby and water at this point just like I was.
@tosha86 (133)
• United States
30 Mar 09
lol. I like the part about telling them to stuff it and blabe it on the hormones! haha. I am not that small though! lol. You are tiny! I have had 2 kids and 3 lost pregnancies. I stay well fit, not big but still weigh more than 100. lol. I know with your 2,3,4, preg you will get bigger faster but not this big! And it makes me feel worse when my husband talks about it though he says its cute, its not to me because it don't make sense.
• United States
30 Mar 09
Well most people aren't as small as me but the point is you started out fit and not fat. So it's not like it's an overeating issue or even something people should be picking at you for. Like I said tell them to stuff it and move on. :) By the way enjoy your pregnancy, I loved being pregnant.
• United States
30 Mar 09
I would just say if you are smaller framed that is the cause of why you are showing so much already and moreso if it's not your first pregnancy. You do look bigger faster with twins, but at this point it's hard to say if you are carrying twins or not until they can either do an ultra sound on you or if the doppler finds 2 heartbeats. If it makes you feel any better, I'm a heavier gal so when I got pg with my first we were extatic as anyone rightfully should be. I needed to go to an ENT because I was having trouble sleeping with my sinus' and as you know being pooped from being pg + not being able to breath is no fun so...... when the nurse asked me how far along I said "8 weeks" she said "8 MONTHS?" Granted like I said I was heavy from the get-go but it's not like I'm 300-400+ catagory (no offense to anyone out there but ya know what I mean) nor carry all my weight in my belly (I'm pretty proportionate despite being heavy). Trust me, to this day I still see the nurse in our medical facility and I just give her the most evil look . Just cause I'm bigger doesn't mean I'm further along. Good Luck with things and don't take it too hard. Sometimes people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut or tip toe around the topic ya know.
@tosha86 (133)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Ok so im not alone, this is great :) I am sorry that you all had this experience because I do know how it feels but maybe its just my hormones that makes it harder for me to deal with.