when your boyfriend talks a lot about his ex....

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Philippines
March 30, 2009 8:38am CST
isnt it annoying if everytime you pick up a topic, your boyfriend will think of his ex? and it will go blah blah blah till the whole conversation is all about his ex. Are you hurt when it goes like this? What will you do in this situation? Thanks in advance for replying!
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@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
my boyfriend knows that i dont have interest about his former relationships coz i dont personally known his past girlfriends. so we dont talk too much about his past gf. but when his pal starts the topic about his past gf's i make myself busy by playing psp in front of them and make sure they know that im not interseted in the topic.. i even left my seat and go to washroom/restroom or do other things like scribbling. hehehe it will only take them a few minutes before they will stop and change the topic.. i dont really get annoyed bout the fact that they are his ex gf but i dont want to be in a conversation where the topic is someone i dont personally know.. happy mylotting!
@Theresaaiza (9413)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
It's a good thing my BF's ex hurt him so much that he never wanted to talk about her unless I asked. i think between us I am the blah-blah-about-my-past-love type. LOL. And I know it irritates him but sometimes I just want to be so transparent to him that's why I talk about my past loves. I do limit it now because I respect that he doesn't want to have that topic brought up.
@coldmoon (1093)
• France
31 Mar 09
I think that my love is great enough to have a certain leniency. Maybe he's just separated his ex and he needs time to forget her, or he wants you not to do the wrong things that she did, or he likes to share anything with you, or even he tests how indulgent and patient you're . Anyway, it'd better than he hides his history.
@kirei24 (252)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Correct! its really annoying if your boyfriend always talk about his ex. It is as if he is not giving you respect. Its ok if he is talking of his ex once in awhile because we understand that it is just a part of his past. And it feels good if your partner share his past experiences to you. But talking about her ex always ( as in everyday and every minute) is another story. Its so irritating.
@oyenkai (4401)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
My boyfriend liked a few girls before me and I'm very thankful that he's sensitive enough to know that I wouldn't want to hear about them for a second :) Even if I open a topic about them, he'd comment minimally and try to strike a different topic. You might think he's trying to hide things but I tried prying and all he did was tell me the whole story plainly until I have no questions left about them :P Now we have no reason to talk about them! I feel safe with him because he thinks about my feelings a lot. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Hello iamsolucky! It's really annoying if your partner talks about his ex all the time. It's as if he still loves her and wasn't get over with the relationship. It could be he is comparing me to her. I do believe that if he talks about his ex all the time, it means that he still loves his ex. It's like when you like someone, you always talk about him to your friends all the time. I would tell him immediately that if he's comparing me to his ex or that he still loves his ex, through his expressions and answer, I know whether he's telling the truth or not.
• United States
30 Mar 09
My boyfriend talks about his ex a lot. Not one stitch of it bothers me. She does not want him and that's that. He had it good with her and he blew it. I believe this is why he is so upset over it. She had money,a business,cars,house,and kept money in his pockets. He was stupid enough to listen to a friend who said she had aids. he quickly left her and went out of state. He recently went to get tested and was really upset at his self for believing such rumors.
@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Its definitely annoying, when that happens to me I just shut up and then walk out. It only shows he is still not over her and it hurts knowing how proud he is or happy he was. He can just go back to his ex right away.
@tontunan (255)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
It is really annoying. He might be comparing you from his ex. If I am at your place, I would ask him frankly," Are you looking someone like her?" If he criticized his ex, maybe he would do the same to you after you broke up with him. If he says good about his gf, maybe he still likes her or still looking for someone like her. He better not to talk about his ex.