urggggg... my mother in law said what ???

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My mother in law and I have had a rocky relationship, but most of the time, I keep my mouth shut, and play all nicey nice.. Last night, my sister in law called to talk to my husband about something he had mentioned to his mother this past weekend. She was mad.. After about 5 mins of listening patiently I lost my cool. After 7 years of keeping my mouth shut, I blew a gasket. After everything was said and done, she informed me, that not only did she think I was a terrible mother and shouldnt have kids, My mother in law said that my youngest daughter was losing weight and malnutritioned, my son was pale, and not fed, and is going to end up in a hospital, and my oldest daughter, who is disabled, should be spoiled rotten and I just treat her like another kid. Now this is all hearsay, I understand, but yet, I could see my mother in law saying those things. I feel like a fool, for the last couple weeks I have been having a hard time.. Between the house, the kids, and my job, it seems like stress was piling up, and at the time, all I had was my mother in law to talk to. I thought it was great that I was able to be honest with her and about my struggle to make it all work. My kids are well taken care of.. sometimes my house isnt always clean by my kids are well fed, played with, loved and hugged. It seems like my husbands whole family is against me, and would love nothing more than to see my fail. This whole time, I have been kind to them, and do whatever they ask. I try to help them as much as I can. I truly do love them, but I am at the point where disliking them is simply not strong enough. I dont know what to do.. I dont want to lose my cool with her ( she has heart problems and was recently hospitalized, and i dont want to be responsible for anything that could hurt her ) But yet I want to call her, I want to yell, scream, and cry at her that I do the best I can, and I am not perfect. And at the same time, I dont want to talk to her, I dont want to confront her, I dont want to cause problems. Please.. what would you do ???