I feel as if I should "rent" a father figure for my three year old son...

@Pleiades (847)
United States
March 30, 2009 1:59pm CST
I left my husband when the boy in question was just over two years old. Now he's three and he LOVES messing with my daughter and mine's personal...girlie things. He'll go and try to put on make up, wear headbands and other such things that boys ought not to be touching. I have an older son from a previous marriage and he too was raised without his father, but I don't recall him that much into girl things. I don't want to think of the three year old having gender issues...perish that thought, but I know the "father figure" is lacking in the lad's life. I do have a brother in law...but he's so busy with his own family and business...I have another male friend who is also a father, but divorced. The whole idea of "renting" out a father figure is almost a sign of ...I don't know what else to do...HELP! *Pleiades
5 responses
• United States
31 Mar 09
Look I know many people think that a boy show do certain things or act a certain way or he will be gay. Well, let me help you out a little, my son is 14 yrs. old now and is girl crazy. He is straight and there is know doubt about it. Now, this is the same kid that his father left when he was three and his sister and I was the only people around him. He would even play dress-up with her and wear dresses when he was 5 yrs. old to play tea party with her. But, it was all in fun just like when he dressed as a superhero or a fireman. Just for fun. He is great with his friends that are girls because he understand them more. A lot of his friends that are girls say he is sweet and sensitive to their needs. But, I know he is just fine and happy with his life. I think that the best thing you could give your son is love and time. Maybe, you could take him fishing or even play catch and as for the personal stuff tell him what they are for. My son did the same thing because he was curious about them. When I told him he said, "Gross!" And, that was the end of it! But, now he does know what Pamprin is and how to cater us in need! Chocolate, pamprin and a romance novel! **Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life**
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
31 Mar 09
*Chuckles* I sure hope so. It wasn't but five months ago he loved going through my stuff and wear my bras and undies on his head...used the personal items like push pops and...he screams like girl. But, I will take your thought in mind and just say to myself he's going to grow up into the sweetest man in the world. My oldest son knows when mother needs chocolate, to give her a bag, run out of the room and close the door! *Pleiades
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Plei, i think yOur boy is so smart that he always tends to watch you..and because he loves you and you are his model, he perhaps thinks that what you do he can also be done. So just talk to him and tell the differwnce between a man and a woman..
• Philippines
3 May 10
Now with this topic, I am starting to wonder if it is possible to "rent a kid". My wife and I would do anything to have a baby of our own. But I guess, it's not yet time. There's nothing wrong with her and definitely nothing wrong with me. Don't fret about your kid. Just make sure he is exposed to coeds. Make sure that he knows how great it is to be a man. Make him the man of the house. The one who will take care of the queen and the princess. In that way, he will be able to have a sense of responsibility and power. Men usually love the two.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Actually they have programs that are somewhat like that...Big Brothers comes to mind. The thing is to find someone that is not only a good role model but is a respectable responsible adult. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
Hi Plei! How much do you pay per hour? Do you accept import? Maybe you should hire me, i'm a low maintenance guy. Lol! Just kidding! Well i guess you're right, a father figure is lacking. Kids live through examples so as much as possible, keep your make up away from him. Is he not interested to play Mortal Kombat on your Xbox? I just hope he'd choose a male character. Something like Goro. Lol!