what do you do when you wanna get out of an abusive relationship?

If your in the US, look in your phone book for an abuse hotline...they will help put you in touch with a local shelter, where there are people who are trained in how to help get you through the process (restraining order, custody issues if there are children, etc...)

GET HELP DON'T TRY TO DO IT ALONE IF IT IS A REAL BAD ONE.THERE ARE HOTLINES AND RESTRAINING ORDERS. SAFEHOUSES ETC.

get help and get out asap take a frying pan to his head

GET HELP DON'T TRY TO DO IT ALONE IF IT IS A REAL BAD ONE.THERE ARE HOTLINES AND RESTRAINING ORDERS. SAFEHOUSES ETC.

Leave from scene. Do not respond. Give time to both, for thinking and settling-down, of dust.

Oh my God I was in the worst situation my ex-husband is trying to strunggle I call the cops on him an I run, run, run and run until I will never see his shadow, voice and evenn in my dream. That's how bad it is. If I were you, "GET OUT NOW"

GET HELP DON'T TRY TO DO IT ALONE IF IT IS A REAL BAD ONE.THERE ARE HOTLINES AND RESTRAINING ORDERS. SAFEHOUSES ETC.

I'd like to add. Things were AWESOME in the beginning. After a while he started getting kind of cold/distant and controlling over money etc.. it was a progression from that to names.. to getting in my face.. to shoving.. to throwing me over furniture.. to trying to strangle me. A 3 year progression. When i first met him i never though he would be capable of doing the things he did, or saying the things he said. It's amazing how people can change.

Leave it now, before it gets REALLY bad. :( I was an idiot and stayed with someone who was cold and mean to me for TOO long because he's my son's dad. I stayed until he ended up almost seriously hurting me. I feel like a moron now, looking back at everything i put up with. It took him trying to strangle me, bruising my ribs, my sternum and biting me for me to wisen the hell up. I ran out the door and to the neighbors to call 911. If you do take off, expect to go through a period of wanting to go back, making excuses etc.. I did it, i think all women in that position do it. IT WILL PASS and things will be crystal clear. I haven't been happier than i am right now, in YEARS. :)

Abusive relationships rarely get better unless the abuser is willing to do some serious, long-term therapy. Getting out is the best policy, especially if there is a lot of physical abuse because it can be life threatening. If you need help, call the battered women's or crisis hotline. Most states have them.

think i would set up things a couple days ahead of time..planning where ..how and when..have things i needed to take packed up important papers and stuff..heck even food if you are not sure how your going to make it for the next weeks or so..wait till a good time then head out...but make sure someone knows you are going that you trust with your heart..and where your going...if need more help..make sure you have a list of safe houses in the area battered spouses hotlines......Good luck if this is your plan or sitution..