It really seems like she doesn't care about her own child.

@lenapoo (674)
United States
April 2, 2009 1:02pm CST
I have a nine year old step-daughter that will be ten next Wednesday. She lives with her father and I. Every since I have been with my husband her mother has been nearly nonexistent in her life. She comes around once every two years or so. Since the beginning of last summer my step=daughter has been breaking down a lot over the fact that her mother isn't around. When I confronted the mother a couple of weeks ago she gives me millions of excuses why she "can't" spend time with her own daughter. Later on in the week she runs into one of our family members and out of the blue starts giving her excuses why she doesn't spend time with her own daughter. She told them that I and my husband are keeping her from her. This is the part that makes me wonder about her. Two weeks before Valentine's day she came by for the first time in two years and brought a small bag of clothing for her daughter. She stayed all of five minutes or less. Her son asked if he could come over while he was tracked out of school. Against my better judgement my husband agreed. So he came and spent a week over at our house. Then two weeks later he came just for the weekend. After the last time my step-daughter came to me and said that she didn't want her brother to come over any more because it hurts her feelings. I said how is that? She said because when I asked my mom why doesn't she come and see me she said she didn't have anytime rite now, but she have enough time to come and drop my brother off. Which I feel is true. What would you do in this situation? Do you think that her brother should stop coming over? Do you think that her mother is setting a bad example?
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• United States
3 Apr 09
This poor girls mother is just horrible. I dont know what i would do about the brother. I guess if she doesnt want him there, then maybe he shouldnt come over. And i am sure the mother is loving you taking the brother too cause thats one less child she has to worry about. I wouldnt do her any more favors. I am sorry but i have no sympathy for horrible mothers.
• United States
3 Apr 09
By the way i forgot to add...you sound like you are a wonderful step mother.
@lenapoo (674)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Thanks. I discussed the issue with my husband and told him that I didn't think he should be allowing her to bring her son over. Being that whenever he wants to come over is the only time she can come by the house. If she has enough time to drop him off every time that he wants to come over then she could make enough time to come and see her daughter. I don't think it's a fair trade. Thanks for your response.
• India
5 Apr 09
This is also part of this life. Sometime we observe those thing which we don't want to see. Ultimately we have to accept truth.