When some boy is trying hard to make friendship with you?

India
April 4, 2009 11:17am CST
I don't like him,but he always tries a lot to impress me.I told him that i am not interested in him but he still sticks around me and asks my friends to help him impress me.I already have a boyfriend and even told him about that.
4 responses
@eshaan (6193)
• India
4 Apr 09
then what did he say when u told that u are going with some other person this time?...he will go away himself and if he still comes behind you , you can treat him like a friend if u like him and tell him clearly that we can be good friends, but if he only wants to be with you as a lover or boyfriend then you should start avoiding him, coz he will get hurt too much someday, if he is serious.
• India
4 Apr 09
Hi Eshaan. Its true that you said in your discussion and I really agree with you. If that boy has a true feeling for Dipeeka,then it would be wrong for her to make him her friend. This is because that person may feel at a certain time that she is behaving so sweetly with him then she may is also falling for him. It is better to avoid him for his benefit.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
4 Apr 09
yes nambita...we dont have any right to play with anyones feelings and heart if we cant give him/her anything in return of his love, better make him and help him live without you...rite ??
• India
4 Apr 09
Hi Deepika. I dont think that a boy can be a very good friend of a girl. He should have a feeling for you. It doesn't matter weather you are engaged or not. If you dont like that person at all then no question of engaged arises.
• United States
4 Apr 09
You've done all you can. From now on, act like he doesn't exist. Eventually, he will get the message. Even his friends will know he is wasting his time, and when he finally gets tired of obsessing on you, hopefully his friends will be there to help him get back on his feet. You are lucky-some boys who obsess and focus on a girl are worse than a pain in the a##, they are dangerous. They become stalkers if they aren't stopped before their behavior accelerates. They can even escalate their behavior to kidnapping, rape and murder, depending on whether they have friends or family who care to interrupt their unhealthy behavior. The best thing for anyone with an infatuation is to slowly realize the object of their unrealistic obsession is not interested in them, and doesn't want any relationship with them. Eventually they will see the foolishness of their obsession, and hopefully get advice to prevent such unhealthy behavior again. Infatuations are one-sided, and they only allow the person to see what they think you are like, not who you really are. If he had been able to spend time with you, he may have become disappointed and ended the relationship, or, in some rare cases, become angry and turned violent towards you, as in his eyes, you betrayed him. As I said, infatuations are one-sided, and easily escalate into unhealthy behavior. If this continues, ask the school administration to contact his parents and advise them to seek help for him, as he cannot accept rejection of his offers of affection. This is unhealthy and shows a disconnection with reality. This can escalate into more dangerous actions that used to be mislabeled as insanity, but are more likely just poorly thought decisions in the heat of emotion. When they escalate to violent behavior, the boy must seek assistance or be taken forcibly for treatment of long-term emotional and mental disorders. For now, just turn a cold shoulder and don't look at him or talk about him openly. When he continues to approach you, go to the school counselor or principal and ask them to speak to the boy, and inform his parents. They will follow through with further actions to lead to treatment of the boy for mental disorders if necessary, for protection of you and all the faculty and student body. Don't worry about him going "postal," but remember, many accounts of shootings at school concerned a disturbed boy who couldn't express himself properly, and reached this level of violent behavior.
@chimrani (1430)
• India
4 Apr 09
friend it is the nature of a man to like a girl/lady.If you don't want to make friendship with him just tell him that you are not interested in him.If he again try then tell this to you boyfriend and the last option is slap him. In my locality i too see many bad boys try to make friendships with girls though the girls are married or engaged. "It is impossible to understand a lover"