Will you be happy living this way?

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
April 7, 2009 11:59am CST
Will you be happy that you can have a family with your loved ones but you cannot do anything that you used to do and like to do and the whole living environment, place, people, everything is completely changed? Basically, do you think you will be happy to sacrify everything for your loved ones? Do you think if you can?
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@kprofgames (3018)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I am guessing here that it would be moving to a different location, city, school, just everything? I would say I can do that if I have my family. If this is for a job then I wouldn't be sacrificing anything, I'd be moving and supporting my husband. I don't think new is a bad thing as long as you continue to grow as a couple and your first priority is your family.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
What if your mom, dad and siblings are all in a different country?
• United States
7 Apr 09
I looked at your profile to see your age so I do understand your fears here. I'll tell you this. When our boy was 19 he had an a job offer in Thialand. He'd never really been out of the state, he wasn't married and if he choose to do this he would be all alone in a foreign country not even knowing the language. We encouraged him to go. We talked via e-mail, msn and on the phone regularly. He was home sick, but the things and new experiences he had were wonderful. As time went on he was getting better. He spend 4 years over there and flew home every 6 months (which is more than most people can do). He is back now and a man we can be proud of. I know that fears run deep. You are going to a place where you don't know anyone and everything is new, but you are still young and you wouldn't be going alone. You would be going with your husband. Your family will always be your family. Buy a webcam and mic and you can still see and talk with them daily over the internet. Don't be afraid to leave them to enbark on a new adventure with your husband. In time you two can always move back and settle closer to your loved ones, but for now - don't be afraid to further develop your relationship with him in another country. I would look at this as an adventure that you two can share for a live time.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Thank you very much... it is really getting more fearful that I don't know why... I want to overcome it too, I do try hard but I just feel very... I don't even know how to explain how I feel in the situation, I love him but I do love my home too...
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
7 Apr 09
i'm sure there is more to this than u are telling. i don't think anyone should have to give up everything they like to do for any reason. my ex expected me to do alot of that but i wasn't turned to ignore friends i went to school with & alot of orther things. of course he could get out & do anything he wanted to & i was suppose to accept that but i didn't. i found out the hard way there are worse things than living by yourself.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Yes, there is way more than that to tell but my husband knew I type some stuff about he and me up here so he told me not to do so... I just want to know what you guys think if you will be happy to give up everything for your spouse...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
8 Apr 09
no!!!!!!!!!!!
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
Hello mermaidivy, I am one person who will sacrifice everything for my loved ones. I am willing to leave anything just to be able to be with my loved ones. I love my single days and my freedom and sometimes I do miss it. But honestly, I prefer to have a married life with someone that I really love and leave behind everything just to have a family that I wish for. There are stuff, places and hobbies that I can no longer do or visit, but it is alright with me as long as I can see the happy faces of people that I love so much.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I do too... a lot a lot... Thanks for responding again! :-)
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• India
8 Apr 09
Ya. i can sacrifice it to my loved ones. Because sharing and sacrifice are the two precious things. These can be done for your loved ones. When you say "loved" ones , it denotes how much you love them.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
21 Apr 09
True... Thanks for responding! :-)
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
i think if you truly love this someone.. everythings will gonna be all right if you love someone you willing to sacrifies everything. you can make you happy every day with him/her. lifes full of wonderful things but it depends on us how to put it in. thank you for this discussion. God Bless!!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
8 Apr 09
Thanks so much!
• India
7 Apr 09
I can't say I am happy but I want to say I am satisfied with my life. Because I know my today is result of my yesterday Due to this I also know my tomorrow is also result of my today.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing!