Marry me?Pls prepare for a house first

China
April 9, 2009 11:19pm CST
Time flies away,seems seldom classmates to keep contact so frequently as before.Every one have individual life, except for some special thing. Lawang is the oldest brother of my campus dorm and i can not cry out to him although he called me nearly 1:00 AM this morining,I listen to his story but seems difficuly to answer his question. He worked in big Shanghai,as a common white collar,and so fortunated that he meet a native girl 3 years ago,they are deeply attached to each other.Lawang think its the best gify for God,and she is his reason to stay in this stranger and heavy pressure city,when he faced for some difficult. Think about lawang's age,is nearly 30 years old,he makes a big decision,bought a diamond finger ring and he choosed a romantic room for a French restaurant to show his love making and claim that he will make her a happy bride. I nearly affected for that thing but the answer make me crazy,just like Lawang,that girl gave him a classical and memorable sentence: "marry me? pls prepare for a house first.....i love you,so i dont ask for a car at that time...." she left without taking that expensive"diamond"finger ring. I kept silent.i know a house is only a dream for lawang and i am not a millionaire i can not help him till now. Dear friends of mylot,please give me your comments!
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7 responses
@smartjack (520)
• India
10 Apr 09
im feeling really sorry for you, sry no comments happy mylotting
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
10 Apr 09
I personally think that when you truly love a person you must help each other in order to buy material things that are needed by both of you. I don't think it's right for the girl for a house before marrying a guy. If she thinks that a guy is not financialy stable or responsible then she should not marry the guy. It's that simple. I wish your friend th best of luck!!!
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
10 Apr 09
For anyone, the happiest house must be built in the heart of his/her lover. Thanks Godness, that girl didn't accept the proposal; otherwise your dear lawang would save his rest of lifetime to regret about his big decision.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
10 Apr 09
Well,I can't blame that girl.Security is a must for everybody.It is no wrong for her to wish to get married with a man who have certain assets.Some people are purely materialistic.Better luck next time for your friend,to get a girl who can see love more than matters.Cheers!
@wzgis17 (41)
• China
10 Apr 09
yes,the house problem is the most serious one when refer to the marriage. I don't know what the condicition in other countries. Girls want to have a guarantee for the last life. it makes a house like home when we have a own house,no matter how spacious it is.If the girl loves the man she would lower ths standard,if the man loves the girl deeply,he would do his best to meet the girl's demand.It may be broken when it can't make a compromise.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
By preparing a house, she meant to rent or buy one? I can understand if she want to feel secure but if she meant to buy a house first, I would suggest him to find another girl. "marry me? pls prepare for a house first.....i love you,so i dont ask for a car at that time...." gimme a break!
@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
10 Apr 09
If they were truly in love, material possessions, even a house, would not be so important that it would stop her from marrying him. My husband and I did not get the best start, material and belonging wise, however, we love each other, and decided to stick out the tough times together. We decided to be there for, and support each other, even if we didn't have a house yet.