Help! I don't know what to do...

Well my dear what has happened to you is very clearly a case of missing the attention. Quite often the more attention we get from someone the less we value it. We kind of take it for granted. Once it goes away however we soon find we miss that attention and begin to realize what we had and didn't know it. There is a saying that I learned from a man who makes his living instructing men on how to date women. In your case it is right on. What he said was that often the best thing you can do is give her the gift of missing you. You have no idea how many men need that advice. Consider if you will what it would really be like if he came back into your life. Would you then be interested or would you find yourself back where you were before. There was a reason why you could not make that leap to girlfriend. Could it be that he was just fine as a friend but you could not imagine being intimate with him? If that was the case it more than likely will not have changed and if you were to have him come back you would hurt him again. Carefully examine how you really feel and either let him know that you really do like him or walk away. Just be honest with yourself for both your sakes.

Well, sometimes there is a limit to things in life. Probably like what you mentioned, this guy has waited for quite some time and given-up already. Maybe you can slowly approach him again if you know that you really like him and see what is his response. if he sees the opportunity again, then maybe he will quickly go back to liking you again. If not, then you know it's a lesson learned.

Hi anneshirley, sometime we only know the real feelings we have when we lost the person. The time and the importance that the person gave us we miss it when that person is gone or change the feelings. That is usually the problem of getting used to it and hate the feelings. I think why not really give space for a while. If it was meant to be, let it be, and if not let time forget. Everything change for a reason. If there is beginning there is an end of the story. So it's up to you now how would you end the story. Life has still to go on! Have a nice day to you!

I don't think you are falling in love with him.It is your ego,playing games.You ignored his love when he approached you straight and now you feel your ego hurts when he treats you as just a friend.Understand this.You never wanted him to cross the lines and he is helping it now.Carry on as it is now.Don't mess up things with wrong ideas of fallen in love.Cheers!

Well, that's usually happen i think you should see him or of there's a chance that you'll meet him again. Maybe it's nice for both of you to have some quality time and have a talk. Base on what you said, i think you're just missing him and i also see that person is important with you though you don't bother him before. Just act natural and be yourself.

I think you should ask him that you vindicate the love for him to accept your togue , otherwis he wouldn't know ,you will also contunue to worry!

You just probably miss the attention as you initially did admit that you consider him as a friend. One of the bad things that happen when friends who seems to like you more than just being friends eventually gets turned down, they don't revert back to being friends as it is often difficult, especially when they have already admitted that they do indeed like you.

Hi anne I would say that if you two were really close friends to begin with then maybe he feels you pulled away from him and he is protecting himself from getting hurt. But if you are thinking of him more than you used to it is possibly because you miss him being around you so much. Take the initiative, call him, text him, email him...whatever....just to say hi. Tell him you just wanted to check on him. If you have something that you guys used to do together to hang out invite him to go do it. Don't risk your friendship of course. Do remember though some of the longest lasting and most fulfilling relationships are based on a mutual friendship and that is the best thing. Good Luck!!!

I know what you are talking about. I am friends with a guy since class 12th and though we were never bf gf but quite close and he would always make me laugh till my stomach hurt and would always be there when ever i needed him but then we went to different college, though in same city and over the time we are meeting less and less so i do miss all the attention and security with this guy around me i had. What i think is since he has moved on you are finding that hey it is not same anymore. What you took for granted that this guy would always be around you is not truth. it is very hard to digest and may be he has a girl now , and you might be feeling now he is gone for ever.. why not try calling him and fix a coffee date. Try to talk again and see where it leads

he feeling well..more freiendship good r not bad in my life....

well, at least, he didn't irritate you. if you've been avoiding him it is but natural for a sane person not to feel wanted and stay away too. since you like him with the extent of you missing him and being bothered with his absence why don't you text him, call him up or plainly approach him and see what's up? of course you have to be prepared to be liked by him again. if you don't like this to be happening the only solution is to bear the pain of missing him and sanely let go.

Let time decide for the two of you. If you are really meant for each other, you just be surprised that he will already be yours. You're still young - enjoy your youth... love will find you if you are ready. But for now, keep yourself busy.

never think about it too much ,you should trust yourself . cherish those who really cherish you and give your true heart to them if he really counts you a lot

Hey~ It happened tome once. But because i didn't want to spoil our friendship, or spoil anything betwen us that was already normal the way it is, i acted oblivious like you did. I had to because he was better of just a friend. But then becuase he's been doing those things like taking glances and sweet things, and once he stop doing it, it does feel weird. Maybe you just miss it a ittle, but eho knows you really like him.. if you want to know you've fallen for him or not, then ask yourself if you'd be extremely thrilled if he was your boyfriend, Do you like it if he was the one kissing you? holding hands with you..? If it makes sense and makes you smile just thinking about it, then congrats my friend, you like him. ^_^ just an opinion though...take care~

Well, I think you are missing the attention. You never really had any intention of letting your relationship with this guy go any further than friendship, right? Instead of telling him straight out that you were glad to have him as a friend and wouldn't want anything to change, you didn't say anything and led him to believe that something else might be possible. He is now staying away, possibly because he figured it out on his own. He might have moved on to someone else. He might just want a friendship with you. The only way you're going to find out is by calling him up and talking to him. You can tell him you miss your friend. But be honest with him and ask him to be honest with you. And really, if you don't have any romantic feelings for him, be honest with that. If he is your friend, don't you want him to be with someone who has really "fallen for" him?

Hi! it could be both. I mean when the guy was courting you, you sidelined him and did not understand his worth as he was at the reaching end and now as he is beyond your reach you feel for him. This is human nature and there is nothing to fret. You should neither rub after him for he could take am upper hand over your condition. If he comes in the natural way its ok, for it is sure that you are in love with him or it could be an case of infatuation too. If you are still persistent you could engage your friend to test his vent. Hope things go right with you.

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[b][/b]you're still young, take your time, if it's you and him time will tell, whatever will be will be, just enjoy every moment of your young life. i think you're just missing the attention he gave to you..

hi,you are not nervious about this, the boy allawys like this.now, you and the guy friend are all together or separate for some time, you said that you missed that guy. what feeling about the love. you have two ways to choose. one is that you show love feeling to him,and have a see what action the guy friend will make.the other,you should end the period of the feeling as soon as possible,if you have single side of the love.you must make a decision about this. otherwise,you must be anony about it. and not happy for a long time.