Am i a bad listener?

@nee_raks (205)
India
April 11, 2009 11:31am CST
For the first time i noticed it when my communication skills teacher points out that i am actually a very bad listener. Second time my closest friend noticed it as i was just talking about me without listening to her. You need to be a good listener to understand people better and for being a good fiend too. What are you people? Just you or a good listening friend ?
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5 responses
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Hi nee_raks! I actually took a communication class for work once and it's very surprising how bad of listeners we all are..lol..it's not just you. The instructor give us all the same series of instructions and almost every one of use followed them differently. We weren't wrong..but different. I think I am more of a listener than I am a talker but I have a lot of friends that like to talk and that works out pretty good..lol..Take care.
@nee_raks (205)
• India
14 Apr 09
hiii Jen, if i wish to give a comment to your response .. i would probably repeat a few of your lines. Exactly same happenned to me as i took a communication class too and was caught as a bad listener. But the problem is still i am a bad listner and more a talker. What to do ?
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Apr 09
I am not perfect,, for sure,, I do talk more and listen less,, I try to pay full attention when there is important chat
@nee_raks (205)
• India
18 Apr 09
hiii Sir! As i already told you my problem and now you too, we both talk more and listen less. Ok will try to pay full attention to important chats but most of the times i forget that i have to pay full attention. hahahahaha. Thanks for the response.
• United States
16 Apr 09
Not to pat myself on the back, but I am a very good listener. I happen to have a friend that is a bad listener, and unfortunately it makes her not always a good friend. She can talk about herself non-stop for 2 hours without stopping to ask not ONE SINGLE thing about me. I find that most of the people that I encounter don't need useless advice, but rather someone to really hear exactly what their issues are. Most people come up with their own answers to their issues by just saying aloud what is wrong. If you really listen to people you can also find out what is really bothering them......it usually isn't the most obvious thing. If you want to be a good listener you will become one. It is a matter of deciding that you care enough about the person you are talking about or the subject matter being discussed to devote your full attention to it.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
11 Apr 09
To be a good listener is not every one's cup of coffee. Firstly all of us love to cry our cries than listening to others and secondly there are people who are really boring to be able to stand them. But if once this habit is cultivated one can not only learn many things bit also would win love and respect. Just fancy, you are sad over this or that matter and you have none to speak out your heart. If by chance I happen to visit you and I listen with out interrupting you in between would not you feel much relieved? No doubt I had to back up my energy level for all the while you were not coherent. After listening to your version attentively I reach the level to suggest you something positive to do. And for your listening just get self motivated and and see in a short period you would be really a good listener.
• India
11 Apr 09
im listen to wht ever my friends say and then reply , but sometimes when im over exited about a topic i just start talking a lot , but when my friend speaks i stop and just listen to her , this has made our friendship more deeper .