Is love enough?

I am really sorry to hear you are having problems and questioning if it is enough. I know exactly where you are coming from. I can tell you what I am going through but I can't give you any advice because I don't know any. Here's my story. I have two grown adult children from my first marriage which didn't last long enough. I was and am, then in a relationsip for the last 13 years. He has two grown adult children as well, but they are spoiled rotten and I can't say I have any love for them. In the last 12 years of the 13 years he has given his children everything we have worked for. We used to have some RRSP's and he has cashed them all in and used the money to pay for his oldest daughters schooling. She has finally got a degree, in nursing, after 9 years of university, which we paid for, at about $140,000. She kept changing her major and after everything she ended up going back to nursing. She just graduated two weeks ago. So here goes the bad part. We, my partner, lived in Winnipeg and got transfered to Calgary. After 5 yaers in Calgary he got transferred back so I went with him. Things were so bad for us so I left and moved back to Calgary, last April, so I have been back for a year now. He flies here to see me and I fly there to see him, but I can't live there. I can't be that close to his kids. So he wants to move here but his company won't transfer him here so he would have to quit his good job, and move. I told him no. He would have to come and find a job here first and then quit his job in Winnipeg and move. But there are no jobs here to be found so he has to live there and I have to live here and so LOVE isn't enough, in our case. Sorry, but I have no advice for you because I don't know what to do myself. I have to make a decission soon because I need to move on with my life, one way or another. I have to meet some friends here and I can't do that when I don't know if I have a relationship with my Gil, back in Winnipeg, or not.

Sometimes it isn't enough. Life happens.. people grow, people change, distance forms. Are you going to only marriage counselling or are there individual sessions in there as well? Other than the counselling and opening up a great deal of communication all else I can suggest is patience...

my husband and i having problems to so i feel your pain.i love him with all my heart but he wont go to counsiling. i go day to day.i feel like giving up and run away alot.i guess when i cant stand it anymore ill change it.im sorry i dont have better advise.just keep the faith and when its gone you know its time to change.my husband and i have been through alot and he has changed alot. but know we have other issues to deal with.i dont know when(when)is enough.