Do you like a big family?

China
April 14, 2009 12:35pm CST
I was born and grow up in a big family. I have five sisters and brothers; my father has three; my mother has seven. All of them are living in the same city with my family. So when festival comes, we all enjoy a happy and boisterous get-together. And our sisters and brothers always play together, so I have a wonderful childhood. Many of my friends are living in a nut family and they say that they are always lack of playmates at home when they are kids. What's your situation? Do you like a big family or a small one? How many children do you like to have? I think I would prefer three.
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29 responses
@axibal (63)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
a big family? not at these time of crisis. how can you feed a big family if you are underpaid or much worst unemployed even though you are qualified as in a college graduate. no, i'd rather have a small family where i can say that i can provide my family the very best in life.
• China
15 Apr 09
Yes, that is another problem a big family should be faced with. My family did experience a hard time when we need a large amount of money for educating.
@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
a big family is happy family
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
i don't want a big family. actually i want to be alone so it will be too noisy around me because I'm a silent type of person.
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
14 Apr 09
I don't like big crowded families actually. I had my sister and me when we were growing and we were enough for each other. But my cousins were living in a different city and they were crowded and i never liked to play with them because they were always fighting!
• China
14 Apr 09
Fighting is common between my sisters and brothers during all my childhood. Admittedly, it is really annoying. In a word, there is fun and there is also annoyance. Now we have been grown up and get along with other in a harmonies way. But the fun is still there. I think it is my parents who suffered most from our fighting. Dad and mom, we love you!
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I come from a big family of nine. The only disadvantage that I see in big family is on the issue of money. If you can't feed manhy mouths, better have two or three children.
@net_ankit (643)
• India
18 Apr 09
I am not lucky like you, because I am not living in Big Family, We are five persons in Family.I am watching Televisin & movies where I seen many Joint Family lives togather with & some time some incident occurs & result in Family Crash. You know in real life I have not seen big families who lives togather the reason is Every one Loves Freedom , Son Wants his own house with his wife, Without parents, In America you know allmost everyone don't stay with their folks.
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I have a brother and we have lots of cousins,aunts and uncles from both side of the family.I prefer to see them once in a while but it's my brother who always go to visit them and have drinking sessions.It's okay to have a big family as long as the kids will not always fight.I have 2 kids (boys) and I'm very content to have them.No additional.LOL!
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
15 Apr 09
well my kids were born it was like I had triplets cause i took care of my daughter an her twin cousins who were all born aweek apart plus my other daughter an a few of my other nephews while thier parents worked i took care of all of them I had about 10 at a time all under the age of 4 is when it started anI took care of them till they were about 13 now 3 years later god I miss it i rebmer being tired when thier parents came to pick them up thats if they picked them up sometimes they had to work over an just let thier boys spend the nite I am the 2nd yougest out of 5 anI know my grandfather was 14 out of 16 now I wouldnt want that many but i do miss alll the kids runing in an out
• India
15 Apr 09
I like big Families .. Because due to big families house looks lik a perfect house .. every body live togather , share thier thoughts togather & we naver feel any kind of lonelyness,,, People helps each other in many ways .. It creates very friendsly eviron ment.. sO thats y i like Big family....
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
In my case I am the eldest of seven siblings. I have one sister and five younger brothers. My mother is the eldest and they were five. My father is the fourth child and he has nine other siblings. Five were male and five females. My mother's mom has lots of siblings too. They were I think fourteen. My father's mom has I think seven siblings, I am not quite sure. My mother's dad is an only child. My father's dad I am not sure. I do not want to elaborate more about my cousins and other relatives but to sum it up, we are plenty. Really plenty. When there are reunions, I usually ask who are the other members because I do not know them all. I am now married, with one son and he is now six months old. I do not have any plans to have another baby but I am not closing the possibility that after maybe five to seven years I may have again. But if I were to decide I only want one. I have noticed that a big family is happy but it is very hard for parents to attend to their kids needs like in my case. My parents have not permanent jobs and they only earn enough for a daily need. So I am lucky because I grew up with my great grandmother and she really loved me so much. I had the attention I needed so I grew up well. I may sometimes be spoiled but that was during my childhood days. I prefer a small family. There are many ways to be happy but it is so hard to earn a living to support a big one. So I would rather stick with small family and have more than to have a big family with less. Anyway when a couple can support more kids then I have nothing against them having more kids.
• Indonesia
15 Apr 09
that's nice... help me so much
• Portugal
15 Apr 09
i love large families, they always seem so alive, and with energy to go around, besides there is always enough people around to help you, and enough people so you won't be smuther for being the only one. i am an only child, not by my parents choice but because sometimes life doesn't allow people to get what they want. my father has a brother and my mom is the youngest of three. has you can see we're not a big family, which is a shame, but we do have a lot of love and i think that makes up for it. however, i intend to have at least three kids and a have a joyous household. i'm allowed to dream, aren't i?
@hxstar (510)
• China
15 Apr 09
Hi,Flowfire! I like your name so much!I really envy you as you have so many family members.I think I like a big family.I only have a brother,and I always want to have a sister.A big family is really good especially when it is festival.You know,rather than spend the time lonely,it is more interesting to go a holiday with many people and they are all you loved ones.Besides,when you are in trouble,you will get more support,and when you are away from home,knowing that there are many people thinking of you is really good.However,big families have their problems too.As there are many people,parents need to work hard to support them,you know,this is really not easy.And people always have different opinions,family members should be magnanimous,or there will be so many arguments....That is terrible you know! Well,I still like big families anyhow!And congratulations since you live in a big family. Have a nice day!
• Australia
15 Apr 09
according to me there are both ADVANTAGES & DISADVANTAGES to live in a big family advantages mean that ,there is love in each other in every member of family but that is not a thick love,they wiil live very happily with sharing all issues in that family, disadvantages mean that untill in each every person IGO starts lot of problems will occur in that family,in my view lot of problems has being occured due to childrens in the family I LIKE SMALL FAMILY CONSISTS OF 4 MEMBERS if we live in the big family we doesnt get any special value
@Huskydog (27)
• Iceland
15 Apr 09
Family of 4 is enough for me, i like small family. :-)
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Welcome to Mylot I never had a Big Family, I had 3 but 2 now, My daughter has a big family, she has nine Kids. and she has a set of twins. One yr. Old to 18yrs. old.
@chimrani (1426)
• India
15 Apr 09
[b]I too born in a big family.But gradually we separated and i too don't like big families because we cannot enjoy life because of fights for property and on small things. "Now my family consists of my parents,sister and my wife we are small family and in november my family will be increased as iam going to become father. [/b] "I want to have 3 childrens 1 girl and 2 boys"
• China
15 Apr 09
i think i would like a big family,it will be very funny and full of enjoyment.but sometime i don't like many chirdren because they are boring .now many family just have a child ,and their parents are busy too,from another hand maybe the dhild will feel very longly,so a big family can avoid these thing happen.
@rakesh284 (1472)
• India
15 Apr 09
I personally like big family but each and every member should have mutual understanding about each other and everyone should be helpful enough to solve problems of each other. Because in big family there is always an debate on difference of opinions. Which results in ignorance among each other? I am living in a single small family. Mom, dad and two sisters. Whenever I am going to my native place I have a lot of fun because there are many cousins who are at home and are good playmate.
• United States
15 Apr 09
My brother and I were the only two until our parents got divorced, which was when I was around 9 I think. Then my mom started dating someone she was with for like 7 years who had three kids,and my dad got remarried and his wife had two kids. It was great growing up with all of those kids and we were definitely never lonely. However I love having just two babies and I don't think that I want anymore...so we'll see!
• China
15 Apr 09
I was born in a smaller family than you,Floefire.I have two sisters.In my childhood I always play with my sisters.We go fishing,climb and other interestint things.In my opinion,I like a family made up of five people or so.